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Sunday, February 16, 2014

How to Deal With Stress by Changing How You Feel About It

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We all know stress can hurt us. But I recently learned we might be much better at dealing with stress if we change our attitudes about what stress means. In fact the harm stress does to our health may be caused more by our being stressed about stress, than the original stress itself.

Sound like I'm talking in circles? Well, I just listened to a TED Talk by Stanford psychologist Kelly McGonigal, entitled "How to Make Stress Your Friend." McGonigal confessed that after years of counseling about stress, she may have been wrong. Stress may not be the villain we think it is.
If this sounds startling, McGonigal says she was "freaked out" herself by the idea that stress could be a good thing. But her change of heart came as a result of an eight year study on 300,000 people in the U.S, all with different levels of stress.

The researchers asked the participants how stressed they considered themselves to be, and also whether or not they viewed stress as harmful to their health. Then over the course of the eight years, they tracked which participants died, and compared the death rates against the answers to their questions.
Sure enough, the people who were under a lot of stress, and also felt stress was harmful were significantly more apt to die prematurely. But surprisingly, the people who had a lot or stress, but didn't think of it as harmful, had lower death rates than the people with very little stress at all.

The Heart and Stress
We've probably all experienced our heart racing and pounding when we feel overly stressed. Over time this is what contributes to much stress related heart disease, and stroke.

The cardio-vascular effects of stress on the bodies of study participants, however, were markedly different depending on their attitudes about their stress. The blood vessels of those who believed themselves to be harmed by stress became contracted, severely limiting blood flow to their brains. But the arteries of the people who did not believe stress was harmful remained relaxed when they were under stress. Their hearts did still race, but each beat carried the blood and oxygen they needed to meet whatever challenge they were facing.

According to McGonigal, this ability to let stress pump more blood without constricting the blood vessels is the same reaction the body experiences when we feel joy, or courage. It is also what happens when we do aerobic exercise. We have to get our heart rate up to make it stronger, and a stronger heart means better health.

We experience physical stress when we lift weights, run alongside our kids as they learn to ride a bike, or carry in a load of groceries. And the more we do those things, the more we can continue to do. We don't think about those kinds of stress as harmful. We may not think of them as stressful at all.

Could changing your attitude lessen the harm of your stress?
For one thing, worrying about the stress you already have just dumps more unnecessary stress on top of whatever else you are dealing with. So dropping the worry alone is a positive move. Understanding that your heart is pounding to help you might give you more courage, knowing you will be strong enough to face stress as it comes.

We could acknowledge our stress as a signal to take action. You could sit and fret about your problems, or use the stress signal to get up and try to fix them. We almost always feel better as we move to get things done.

We could use our stress signals to remind us to breathe deep or meditate more. We could use it fuel us into a brisk walk, to get our blood pumping for all the right reasons. Whatever methods we use to deal with our stress now, the idea that stress could be our friend is certainly worth considering.
In my next article, I will review the second part of McGonigal's TED Talk, where she explains how a particular stress hormone actually keeps us connected with each other.
You can watch the entire uplifting talk at:

http://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend.html.
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Wednesday, December 21, 2011

How To Learn From Failures In 3 Simple Steps

By: Michael Lee

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Want to know how to learn from failures? Your journey starts this second. The fact that youre reading this article is proof that youre prepared to take on the challenges that you might not want to face.

It takes courage for people to realize that they need help on how to learn from failures. And you, my dear friend, have that. Learn from your mistakes and move on with your life starting with these steps.

Step 1: Humility Helps.

A little bit of humility goes a long way. You know you did something wrong; and while you might be feeling a bit defensive, you had best keep your emotions in check.

Accept that your plans didnt go as well as you would have wanted and apologize to those who warrant your apology.

Humility is the first step to mending broken ties and relationships. Ignore other people who are talking about you behind your back.

Who you were before, or whatever your status might have been - those are no longer significant. This is not the time for you to start another war, but the time for you to reflect on what you have done.

Step 2: Observe And Report.

By now, the ruckus should have died down a little. If you want to learn from failures, then you need to stay quiet and start listening to other people for once. Watch how your peers and colleagues are handling matters.

You might not have noticed these things before; but now that youre given the chance to observe them, you might be able to pick up a thing or two. This is your chance to learn how you can help straighten things out.

Step 3: Make Things Right.

If you want to know how to learn from failures, then youll have to do a bit of dirty work. Its not the most pleasant task to do, especially if its your mess youre cleaning up; but making things right is extremely crucial to your redemption.

If youre not yet certain of what you can do, ask. You dont have to come up with the one solution that will take care of everything, but you can start by helping out in little ways.

Getting coffee for those who are doing the brunt of the work, for example, is one way you can make amends.

Knowing how to learn from your failures is very important. This is the only way you can grow as a person. Whether its your career or your personal relationship on the line, you must still learn from your experiences.

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Monday, December 5, 2011

A Simple Guide to Fight Stress

 Autor: j_hardcastle89

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Everyone has suffered from stress at least once. If you remember your palms becoming sweaty before an interview, experiencing headaches when thinking of your last work problem, or having stomach disorders because your test exams are approaching, these can be categorized as instances of stress related to physical malfunctions that have caused you to loose sleep and reduced your performance levels.

Regardless of the age group one belongs, stress is considered today to have an extremely dramatic impact on the human immune system. That is because stressful situations that have and extensive duration affect the hormones of the human body, which in turn direct affect the human immune system. Cases of chronic constipation, migraines, acne breakouts, upper respiration infections, colds, ulcers, and even more serious health problems like diabetes, heart diseases, and certain types of cancers, can be linked, according to scientists, to prolonged periods of stress.

But do not get despaired. Although stress cannot be eliminated, social scientists, psychologists, and doctors, agree that stress can be controlled and people that are able to give themselves another chance can live healthier lives.

Exercise: Known for its tension relieving outcomes, a steady exercise problem can help people reduce their stress levels. A calm evening walk or a more dynamic type of exercise, like an aerobic class, can help a stressed individual get rid of the tension and the anxiety that are caused by stress.

Sleep: Give your body and mind the opportunity to rejuvenate naturally during sleep. Although people under stress experience difficulties in sleeping the appropriate hours needed, experts support that sticking with a steady sleeping plan and going to bed every night around the same time, avoiding heavy food or caffeine drinks, can help a person fall asleep and lower his stress levels.

Breath: Learn how to breathe properly and practice it frequently. Deep breathing exercises can help the brain and body reconsider the parameters of a stressful situation and readjust to the experience. Inhale air from the nose and exhale it from the mouth after holding it for five seconds. In the meantime clear your mind and concentrate on a pleasant thought.

Avoid: Try to avoid consuming caffeine substances and never take it out on yourself. Caffeine can prolong the stress period and since it is a stimulator you can experience problems in sleeping or breathing. Moreover, by blaming yourself and your luck you are not concentrating on solving an issue but rather on prolonging the distress and the anxiety you feel.

Don't panic: Although it is common to let your feelings go wild when upset, try to focus on what you feel and act as if that was your main problem so as to solve it. Listening to music, breathing properly, writing a journal, exercising, going out, or doing whatever you think is appropriate can put you in a better mood.

Talk: People surrounding you are not indifferent to your problems. Stop treating them as if they were. Speak about what worries you and ask for their help. Even the fact that someone will listen and offer another perspective can be enough for you to see another ankle of the issue and work towards its solution.
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Sunday, August 1, 2010

Control Stress or It Will Control Your Business

 By: Dale Collie

When we think about stress in the workplace, we usually refer to ulcers or heart conditions, but stress has a much broader impact. It is known that stress is linked to cancer, lung ailments, cirrhosis of the liver, immunity to common illnesses, back problems, and many other medical problems.
It is estimated that stress is the underlying factor in 75 - 90% of all physician visits.
We see the effects of stress in workplace absenteeism, accidents, health care costs, workers comp, quality problems, productivity, litigation, grievances, violence, customer service complaints, resistance to change, personnel turnover, and profits.
Workplace stress is costing your business thousands of dollars per year. Is stress a line item on your budget? Knowing how much you are spending on stress is a good place to start, but you must take responsibility for stress control and its impact on the bottom line.
To receive a free article about the signs and symptoms of workplace stress, send a blank email to highstresswarningsigns@couragebuilders.com. It's automatic.
If stress is such a problem, you might be asking questions such as:
++How much is stress costing our company each year?
++How can we find out the costs?
++How can we control stress to put this money back on the bottom line?
Controlling stress is beneficial on the bottom line and for employees who work hard to make the company successful.
About The Author
Dale Collie speaker, author, coach, and former US Army Ranger, corporate president, and teacher at West Point. Selected by "Fast Company" as one of America's Fast 50 innovative leaders. Author of "Frontline Leadership: From War Room to Boardroom," and "Winning Under Fire: Turn Stress into Success the US Army Way," (McGraw Hill).
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Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Simple Ways To Combat Stress


By: John Hilbert

We live in a fast paced society which seems to be becoming more hectic by the day. Every day we run into people who lose control and flip out. We, ourselves, do it on occasion. There's no way to change the world around us so we have to try to control our inner world. We have to take care of our own mind, body and soul.

Here's a few very simple things that can make a big difference:

-take a walk every day-
-limit caffeine and alcohol intake-
-instead of watching television, read a book-
-at dinner time, turn off the TV, radio, and phone-
-when it's sunny out, get outside as much as possible-
-avoid negative people as much as possible without being rude-
-try different things once in a while(stay out of ruts)-

It's not difficult to do these things but most of us won't unless reminded of them. So, put these tips on a little note somewhere visible and add a couple of your own ideas and keep adding to the list. It's been said and proven that you get more results when you put your goals in writing.

Try this for a month and see what happens.

http://conquer-stress.info/stress/


About the Author

John Hilbert has an informational website at: http://conquer-stress.info/stress/

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Coping With Stress


By: Pastor Ellen
When our son, Michael, was around three, he would report to me about his time at the babysitter's. "I 'stretched' her out, Mommy," he would say. My mind visualized someone being pulled apart like saltwater taffy, with Michael doing the pulling at one end, and then the other!

Stress is rather like that, with our patience being stretched to a breaking point! We tend to handle stress by diverting our energy to worrying, to getting angry, and/or to engaging in some totally unrelated activity (called avoidance!). Very seldom do we turn directly to the Lord, seek His guidance, and consider His options.

So, here is our opportunity today and everyday. The moment we feel the onset of stress, any slight pressure, even the smallest twinge, we should refer to God's Word and allow Jesus to take over: Joshua 1:9 "Be strong and courageous; do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." We should memorize this. Say it in our heads. Speak it out loud to keep Satan away. And watch for results! They will be there. They will be tangible signs of our stress dissipating and reducing by the power of the Lord.

When God is with us, even when we go down the pathway of stress and anxiety, things will change. Just wait and see! Instead of being weak and afraid, instead of being discouraged and confused, God will set our hearts solidly upon His Word. God will take that stress and disburse it to nothing! He will command it to leave our hearts and minds, and we will be free of our stress and anxiety until the next time! We must try it and see what happens. We will be amazed by the difference God makes, and we will love God even more!

About the Author: Pastor Ellen grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area and attended local schools there: Turnbull Elementary, College Park Middle School, San Mateo High School, and Stanford University. She has two masters' degrees from Teachers College Columbia University and San Francisco Theological Seminary. For more Godled Daily Devontionals like is one, sign up for free at: http://www.begodled.com

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Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Stress and Anxiety Relief Without Drugs


By Dan McBee
In order to solve a problem you must first understand the problem.
While Stress and Anxiety may be the result of an outside event or situation, it has more to do with your ability to cope with the event or situation. What really causes you to get stressed out is fear.
Two Main Types of Fear
One type of fear is healthy fear, this would be like having a fear of running in front of cars, obviously it is healthy to fear what could happen if you ran out in front of a car. Placing your hand on a hot stove or sticking a finger in a light socket are other examples of healthy fear.
The other type of fear is the unhealthy type of fear, the fear of losing something you have or not getting something you want.
This is the kind of fear that causes you to feel stressed and anxious.
Here are 6 tips you can practice to improve your ability to live life on life's terms.
1. Remember That You Are Not Your Mind - when you practice remembering that who you really are is soul, and that your mind is supposed to be your servant, you will begin gaining control of your mind. Your mind should be the servant to your soul. I know this may seem a little strange at first, but if you will just remind your mind to be your servant, you will actually begin to feel the difference.
2. Nothing Is Worth Your Peace Of Mind - Repeat this as often as you feel yourself getting stressed and tense.
Teaching your mind that nothing is more important to you than your peace of mind, your mind will begin to quiet and your life will become less stressful.
3. This Too Will Pass - nothing lasts forever, the good times and the bad both pass, as you continue your new journey to peace and tranquility, you will discover that much of what had you stressed out over, works out on its own and that if you have a mind that was calm you are able to make a better choice.
4. Practice Living in the Now!! - When you are fearing the future or regretting the past, you are peeing on the present. I believe the present is called the present because it is the gift from God. When you live in the present you are more open to seeing, hearing and feeling the miracles that occur around you every day.
5. Practice Does not Make Perfect- What practice actually creates is permanent. You can practice a bad golf swing a million times but it will still be a bad golf swing. Therefore it requires practicing the right swing over and over to make it a permanent part of your life.
6. If You Keep On Doing What Your Doing, You Will Keep On Getting What Your Getting- In order to change the way you experience life you have to pay more attention to the way in which you deal with life. Do you respond or react when something goes wrong in your life. Are you a problem solver or a problem creator. Are you a victim of life or a participant.
While looking deep inside ourselves may not always be easy, the result will enrich your life in ways you beyond your imagination.
Disclaimer- If you are currently on medication, please do not go off your medication without the direction of your doctor. Medications can play an important role in your journey to self discovery while you practice a new way of thinking!
Dan McBee has been in the self improvement movement for over 30 years. Visit his website http://justwhisper.net to learn more.

Monday, July 19, 2010

Ways You Can Reduce Stress Today


By: Dennis Miller

One of first steps towards enjoying a more stress-free life is to know where it's coming from - be it a so-called external source or from yourself.

Your goal is not only to identify as many of your sources of stress as possible, but with as great as precision as possible, and to break your sources of stress down into the 'right size' sources. If you're not sure what's making you stressed, how are you supposed to cope with, or eliminate this stress? Similarly, if you lump all your stresses into one gynormous stress, how are you supposed to even want to begin to tackle your stress?

1:Brainstorm on a blank piece of paper anything or anyone (actions, people and attitudes) that you feel is contributing to your current stress level.

Start off with external actions and people. Then look at how you may, unconsciously or not, be contributing to your own stress, whether it's your mind-talk or attitude or your stress coping skills. For example, ask yourself the following:

-What actions (jobs to do, events and deadlines) do I associate with my stress? -What people (family, friends, colleagues) do I associate with my stress? -How does I contribute to my own stress (attitude/thoughts, feelings, behaviors/habits)?

2:Be as specific as possible, by asking yourself, the 5 W questions - who/what, where, when, why and how.

You want to know what specifically is stressing you so that you can tackle each of the sources of stress one by one, in a manageable fashion, and either eliminate or reduce them.

Anytime you sense that you are being too vague for it to help you, do a stress-buster, and go in for the specific. Classic examples are your stress excuses or cover-ups, such as "It's just a hectic time of year", or "Whenever I'm with Mary, we end up fighting about silly things" or "I just have a nervous personality, that's all".

3:Break down each Stress Source into a Manageable Stress Issue:

If you say simply, "my husband stresses me", you are unlikely to be able to reduce the stress you feel around him, unless you leave him. If instead you identify that "my husband stresses me when he talks about finances...", this already has become more manageable issue. And if you then identify that it's really only when you talk about the phone bill that it gets stressful, then you are able to focus in on one specific stress source.

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Friday, July 9, 2010

Coping With Long Term Stress.


by: cmfields

Stress is a natural part of life and, in some instances, can be prove to be a positive element of our everyday living. Too much stress, however, can put a strain on our well-being and affect our health.

So how do we cope with it, to get through life?

Positive Stress

It is a well known fact that our bodies are equipped to cope with stress. Stress is a natural part of life and, in some instances, can be prove to be a positive element of our everyday living.

We tend to get butterflies in our stomach when we are excited or nervous. We get a thrill from extreme sports. For some people, this 'positive' stress can lead to heightened awareness and improves one's focus.

Long-term stress, however, is another matter entirely.

Affects of Stress

Long-term stress can be experienced from pressure at work, at home or at school. Surprisingly, we can also experience stress in social environments, especially when we feel uncomfortable in other people's company.

Stress can zap our energy, leaving us feeling drained and ill-prepared to deal with basic issues. It can make us feel run down and unable to cope in normal circumstances. It can affect us physically as well as mentally, if we don't tackle it head-on.


How your body reacts to stress

When faced with a situation that makes you feel stressed, your body releases chemicals which invoke 'fight or flight' feelings to help us deal with each situation.

A build-up of these chemicals can increase our blood pressure and heart rate and can affect the level of perspiration we experience. Cortisol, in particular, prevents our immune system from functioning properly and releases fat and sugar into our blood stream.

Long-term stress can have a serious impact on our overall health. Learning how to manage stress is essential to living a happy and successful life.


Spot the warning signs

If you manage to spot the warning signs the body gives out - excess sweating, excess flushing, nervous and sickly feelings, you can act at an early stage and combat the effects of such stress and improve your well-being.

Constant pressure, which isn't recognised or dealt with, can induce symptoms of anxiety, depression, comfort eating, regular sleeping patterns, lack of concentration and stomach cramps and headaches, to name but a few.

We even stress about being stressed, which does not tackle the problem. It is essential to take preventative action to deal with stressful situations, which in turn will alleviate its symptoms.


Changing your attitude to stress

It is important to first of all understand what causes us stress and anxiety, before we are able to deal with it in a positive way.

If you, like me, often feel anxious about deadlines and worry about what people may think of you (especially if you blush easily and physically show your nervousness), you need to learn to ignore these negative signs and focus on what you are trying to achieve and think positive. Does it really matter that you are flushed? Does it really matter that some people will just look at the physical signs of your disposition and not what you are actually communicating?

So, when you are next in a stressful situation, don't feel concerned with the physical elements of your persona, but instead find and focus on your inner strength to communicate confidently.
Act confidently

On holiday recently, whilst on a boat trip, I came across a woman who had a badly disfigured burn scar on her face. She was a lovely lady, with a bubbly outgoing personality, and enjoyed laughing and chatting to strangers aboard. Her persona was of a confident individual who loved life and didn't care what people thought of her. You should do the same - act confidently and you will sail through life.
Is it time to change your circumstances?

Be honest with yourself - would you be happier leaving your job for something more interesting and satisfying? Would you prefer to live somewhere more suitable for your circumstances? Could your partner help more around the house to ease the pressure? Question your circumstances and, where possible, make the necessary changes to suit you.


Putting things in perspective

No matter how you may be feeling, never lose sight of what is important in your life. We have all suffered, at some time or other, the sad loss of someone close. It is at times like this that we re-assess our lives and realise that things that may have caused us stress or concern in the past, are not as important as we once thought. We need to put things in perspective and realise that, to worry and become anxious about circumstances we can not control, is fruitless and only causes us unnecessary stress.

So go ahead - be silly - throw away your anxieties and be care-free! Life is for living. Live it well, be happy and enjoy your time on this earth. You only get one shout at it - so make it a good one! You deserve it!

I hope this has put a smile on your face and made you feel more positive and confident.

Best wishes


Christina Fields

Copyright © 2010 Christina Fields

http://www.theartofpositivethinking.com

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Stress In Women: Coping With Job Stress And Household Duties!



Two women are close friends. One has the job; the other is the homemaker. The former complains about the job stress. The later has the stress that her friend has the job and she does not have a job! The first type is the job stress and the other type is job-related stress.
A woman is affected physically as well as emotionally in every type of job. For, mostly it is the case of dual responsibility of office job and household responsibilities for her.
Even if she engages domestic aids and attendants, there is no complete escape from the household responsibilities for her. A woman is always more attached to her house emotionally. Therefore the level of stress will be more if the hours of work are irregular and unpredictable. Shift duties also add to the woes of woman. If she is a part-time worker she would always compare herself with full time colleagues and their emoluments. Such petty jealousies also add to their stress.
The greatest factor that adds to stress in woman in relation to her job is the unresponsive management and its lack of support to her normal expectations as an employee. In all work places the full time workers are more respected. The facilities given to them are more and this creates a division and friction amongst the various workers.
There is nothing to boost their morale they feel. An undercurrent of unhappiness always flows within them. This affects their performance and they develop a feeling within themselves, “why should I work more than this?” Work is not worship to them; they just carry on for the sake of carrying on.
Women are more sensitive as compared to men. A particular stress thus affects them more than the men. To a given situation, both will react in a different manner. The pivotal point of men’s life is the job, for women it is always home and family. Many times she has to pass through the periods of double stress- stress in the family and stress in the job environment.
Another job-related stress is the environment in which she works. Sexual harassment to women in their job places is the most talked about and discussed topic of late. The issue is mainly individual with legal implications. It concerns the woman in particular, not the women in general!

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Ideas For Controlling Stress


In the past, the need for research has not been something that was needed. Now that stress has been shown to help bring about diseases, it is more important. These studies have brought some ideas and programs that will help to reduce stress.
What is the big deal about stress and controlling it? Studies show that stress is one of the major causes of illnesses and diseases. It is not the main reason for the disease or illness but it gives you a feeling of being sick and this in turn gives you a more susceptible attitude for being sick.
Some of the ideas and programs for controlling stress do not help. There are many that do give someone who is dealing with stress some relief.
Listed below are some of the more effective ways to control. You may find that some of them are common to you.
Admitting You Have Emotions
When the nervous system reacts it is called stress. Anyone who has done investigations into stress will find that you have the desire to run away from it or to stay and fight it. The stress by itself is not the danger, it is the energy that is not eliminated from the body. This energy will wear the body down after a long period of time if not gotten rid of. The best thing for you to do is to start by showing emotion. If you see something funny, laugh out loud. This will get rid of some of that energy. If you are mad, then allow yourself to be mad. It is not healthy to hold it inside.
Starting some sort of exercise routine will help to send the energy into the right places. If you are mad, the gym may be a good place for you to go and take it out on a punching bag. The body will be ready to fight when you are mad, boxing is great for relieving this stress.
Take Over The Madness
It is important for you to be able to allow your emotions to come out. The bad emotions like being mad should be controlled. A good attitude and patience will help you gain control and stop the stress or at least reduce it. If you are able to take a hold on your anger, the need to fight or to run will not occur.
Taking Control Of Your Time Reduces Stress
One of the oldest ways to reduce your stress level is to take control of your time. This is a part of stress that is known as business stress. This type of stress is caused by the amount of time we are losing to something else. When you take control of your time and begin to be the boss of it, the stress will be lowered.
Be Happy With Your Life
When you are feeling happy, this will be the best for you. Being happy is all in your mind. You need to start thinking in this way and you will become happier. What is it that will bring about your happiness at this moment? If you mind is telling you that you would like to watch a movie then make arrangements to watch the movie. Think positive and bring along a friend to enjoy it with you.

Monday, May 10, 2010

Living With Someone With Depression


By Jennifer Carter
When someone you live with is suffering from depression, it's easy for the attention of both friends, family & the medical profession to be focused very much on them. Often little thought is given to the difficult role played by those close to them in living with and supporting someone who is depressed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
One thing that's very important to learn and remember is that you can only help them and give care and support if you, yourself, are in good shape, both mentally and physically. Here's three simple tips for helping to retain your sanity through difficult times of supporting a loved one:-
Spend Time With Friends
This is one time that you need to keep in touch with your friends. Even if you can't get out much to see them, try and make a conscious effort to pick up the phone and chat with both friends and family.
Ask For & Accept Help
Asking for help can be very difficult for some people. If you need help with the day to day tasks, you may be surprised to find that people are often very willing to help. Even asking someone to babysit so that you can have a precious evening out can help restore perspective and reduce the level of stress for just a short time. If you find that you are struggling to cope yourself, don't be afraid to seek medical advice.
Make Time For Yourself
Try and find time for some things you enjoy, whether that's walking, reading, sewing, finding a half an hour can give you a well deserved break away from your stressful supporting role.
If you're continually helping others, you'll soon find you have nothing left to give, so it's important to try and look after yourself, as well as you can. Whenever you find yourself making excuses not to, remember that you need to "be kind to yourself" in order to help anyone else.
Jen Carter has been writing for over five years. Her latest website on full spectrum lamps & lighting explores how light therapy boxes may be able to help sufferers of SAD (seasonal affective disorder).

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Information on Stress Exhaustion


Stress Exhaustion is a combination of physical and emotional exhaustion which is the result of prolonged high stress situations. Combined with lack of rest, stress exhaustion can be highly debilitating. People who suffer from stress exhaustion feel overwhelmed by the events around them. Many also experience feelings of frustration and helplessness. If not addressed, stress exhaustion can lead to additional health problems.

Depression is a state of mind which is characterized by a negative sense of inadequacy and a visual lack of activity. It is a mental state in which the effecting person experiences sad feelings of gloom and downturn in mood, which may be relatively transitory and may be due to something complex. The common behaviour includes feelings of sadness, despair, low self-esteem, low self-reproach and discouragement.

Stress applies to any condition that harm the body or the mind. In simple words, it is the condition that results when person-environment transactions lead the individual to perceive a discrepancy, whether real or not, between the demands of a situation and the resources of the person’s biological, psychological or social systems. Every one can get stress whether he is a student or a worker etc.
If you are stressed, you may also be more exposed to risk factors for diseases. For example, smokers may smoke more if they are stressed, and people who drink alcohol to relieve stress may become dependent on it. In the long term this will push up your risk of having a heart attack or stroke, and of developing certain cancers. Overall, if you are under long-term stress you are at greater risk of developing disease or dying prematurely.

They also found evidence suggesting that these stress-learning performance relationships were partially mediated by exhaustion and motivation to learn. Both forms of stress were positively related to exhaustion, and exhaustion was negatively related to learning performance. Hindrance stress was negatively related to motivation to learn, challenge stress was positively related to motivation to learn, and motivation to learn was positively related to learning performance. Implications with respect to theory and practice are discussed.

Sudden Severe Loss In this situation, the individual has experienced a sudden, perhaps surprising severe loss. This loss may be the death of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of friendship, or other grief process. In this type of depression, the patient can clearly identify what is creating the depressed mood.

High levels of stress affect the whole hormonal system, especially the thyroid and adrenal glands. Symptoms of adrenal exhaustion include fatigue, muscle weakness, low metabolism and difficulty resisting flus and colds. Other effects range from headaches and depression to increased environmental sensitivities.

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an emotional illness that develops as a result of a terribly frightening, life-threatening, or otherwise highly unsafe experience. PTSD sufferers re-experience the traumatic event or events in some way, tend to avoid places, people, or other things that remind them of the event (avoidance), and are exquisitely sensitive to normal life experiences (hyperarousal).

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a condition that affects people who have gone through a major traumatic (shocking) event. PTSD is characterized by repeated thoughts about the ordeal, a dulling of emotions, an increased tendency to become excited and aroused, and, sometimes, dramatic personality changes.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

How to Cope With Stress


Stress is a problem for everybody. Can you really think of any person in this world, who is living without stress? The rich or the poor. That rich man you may think is living without stress is really facing serious stress. I know you may be asking what will be stress to a rich man? Stress is in everybody's diction. The poor, the rich, newborn, and even a newly formed zygote that is yet to enter the world of stress.

I consider stress in our present world as a global epidemic. Immediately a child is born, he or she enters into the world with stress. Is is a fallacy for one to say that he or she can live with out stess. Stress is part and parcel of our live. We can not really hide away from stress; neither can we run away from stress. The only thing we can do about stess is to reduce the degree of stess we a exposed to.

What is Stress? Stress is the reactions of the body to forces of a deleterious nature, infections, and various abnormal states that tend to disturb its homeostasis. It is the body's response to change in the environment. Stress is the outcome of the tears and wears we are subjected to in the process of performing our daily routines or work.

According to Canadian doctor, Hans Selye "Since stress is the nonspecific response of the body to any demand, everybody is always under some degree of stress". Who is an an exception to this definintion of stress. Hans selye coined to word stress as it is currently used.

Since we cannot hide away from stress, the best cure for it is to reduce it by managing it properly.

How we can cope with stress?

1. Adaptation: One way we can cope with stess is through adaptation. Adaptation to stress involves modifiying our daily activities to aid in the reduction of stess. For example, I live in a city overcrowded. For me to reach to my school i have to some times spend not less that three hours on traffic jams. How do i cope with this daily stress of traffic jam. I have no option than to start getting up from bed as early as possible so as to avoid the usual traffic jam expereinced in my city.

Few years ago, a friend of mine, who was my neighbour have to pack out from our area to an area nearer to his office, just because of the traffic jam he usually experience. But guess what happen. It was like falling from a fry pan to fire. The stess he is currently exposed to is like doubled. Just a few distace from his house is a Churh and a factory that operates round the clock. He is now face with the stress of noise from this church and factory both day and night. So since we can't run away from stess, we have to try and adapt to it.

Now does it mean that he have to look for another house to be free from this current noise stess? No. The best thing he have to do is to try and adapt to this noise. Just like my current neigbour, who plays his cd to the highest volume has being disturbing me. I don't have to look for another house, rather I try to adapt to living with noise. How have I adapted to this noise pollution. I make sure that my doors and windows are always closed. This will not really eliminate the stress but will reduce it.

2 Excercise: This is a good way to manage stress. Excercie is very good for the mind and body. How does excercise help in the treatment of stress? excercise will help us to use up extra sugars and fats released into our blood when we are under stess. Even if you don't like excercise, take it as a medication for stess. It must'nt be a strenous excercise. Excercise which one can do ranges from walking, skiping, dancing running, playing foot ball, tennis etc. Just try and find excercise that you like and enjoy.

3 Rest and Sleep: The work of most indivituals don't allow them to have adequate and enough rest and sleep today. Rest and sleep shoulb be viewed as a medication for stess. Every individual should have a minimum of 8hours of sleep daily. When a doctor prescribe bed rest for you, try and take it serious. But I will advise that you should not wait for a doctor to prescribe bed rest for you be you consider it worthy of having one. Not having enough sleep is stress itself and will make it diffcult for and individual to cope with other stress.

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Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Stop Stressing - Building Your Support Team


One of the most difficult facts about building strong habits is that so much of it lies directly on our shoulders. We have to exercise the willpower to reduce the influence of stress in our lives; we have to make the choices that will help us feel better at the end of the day. However, many of us focus so much on this challenge that we forget that there are other people in our lives willing to help us, if we just let them.

There are many ways that we can allow others to help and encourage us in our efforts. The ultimate responsibility may come down on our shoulders, but that doesn't mean we're islands that have to stand entirely on our own. Families, friends, and oddly enough even entire strangers can be an amazing resource in our efforts to de-stress our lives. Here, we focus on some of the ways we can build a strong support group as we endeavor to kick the stress habit.

Step 1 - Don't Be Embarrassed

There is no shame at all in asking for help with a problem. Houses are built by large teams, cars are designed by groups, and town councils usually have more than one member. A big enough project will benefit from having outside help, so there's no harm in asking for a little of it. After all, wouldn't you feel honored and pleased if your friends came to you for your help and advice?

As you decide who you want to ask for help, take the following habit building step if you feel embarrassed or worried about asking for help. Remind yourself of something you've done to help someone else and recognize that this is no different. Affirm that it's not a weakness to ask for help with something important. Do this every time you need to ask for help, and in time it will be part of the healthy habit of seeking out others' support.

Step 2 - Start Close

Easy steps are the best way to build a new, strong habit. Having to bend and wrack yourself to bring a new element into your life is a surefire way to get discouraged, so it's best to start where you feel comfortable. For the first member of your support group, choose someone you already trust with things you need help with. A friend you're used to talking to or a family member you confide in regularly is a great choice because the connection will feel natural. This will help the habit grow naturally, instead of being forced into your life.

Step 3 - Rely on Experience

Again, there's no sense in making more work for yourself than necessary. The goal is to reduce stress, not increase it! When picking out your stress support team, consider asking for help from someone who has dealt with stress themselves, or may even be dealing with it now. Their insights will give you a fresh angle on things, and you will both be able to share that sense of camaraderie that comes with mutual understanding of a problem.

Step 4 - Keep it Light, and Be Flexible

Remember that your support group isn't your life-instructor. They're friends you've chosen to help you as you deal with your problem, not to deal with it for you. Don't feel you have to talk to them nonstop about everything. Instead, set up a time to talk once or twice a week. This will give you time to build up things to talk about, so the conversations can be more varied and dynamic, but will also be frequent enough not to leave you hanging when needed.

As you speak to your support friends, remember to keep the conversation flexible as well. If you need to talk to them about things that are stressing you and worrying you, do so. Getting it out can help matters, and let you talk through to solutions. On the other hand, sometimes the best therapy is just a friendly conversation about the newest movie or a great book you've both read. Talk about what feels natural, and most relaxing for you, instead of feeling you have to focus on talking points.

Step 5 - Help Your Team Grow

Numbers aren't everything, and bigger may not always be better, but you want your support group to grow beyond an initial one or two people. Different people have different experiences that you can draw upon, and having an assortment of confidantes who can help you out is of greater benefit than relying solely on one person.

Consider adding a new link in your support chain each week for the next two months. Sixty days is the upper limit of a good habit building timeline, so by the time you've gathered these eight helpers around you, you'll be very used to seeking out their advice and the whole process will feel very second nature. And once you've acquired these habits, you will have an even stronger network of friends to form a lifelong safety net against stress.. Good luck, and healthy habits to you.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Stress Management - Quick Strategies For Coping With Stress


We all do what we need to do to survive, "get by", and deal with the stressors of modern life: Stress at home, stress in our relationships, stress at work. In all of these, good, bad, or ugly, the stress that accumulates adds to the load we're already carrying through life. Thankfully, we are surrounded with abundant information on how to productively quarantine, reduce, or ideally dissipate the stress - the question is have we looked into it yet?There are none more powerful in managing the symptoms of stress than ourselves and so we are charged with the responsibility of keeping tabs on how we are allowing stressors to affect us psychologically and ultimately, physically. It is important for those dealing with stress in the workplace or at home to find practical methods to incorporate daily to prevent stress-induced deficiency. We need to practice removing ourselves from our everyday stressors, even if for a few seconds at a time while right in the middle of them, in order to avoid the anxiety and depression so easily invoked by chronic stress.One particularly inconspicuous strategy that is fun and costs nothing is a "three second vacation". For three seconds, close your eyes and let your mind transport you to the most relaxing place on earth - sights, sounds, scents, everything. Breathe it all in deeply for three seconds and then resume your activity (extend duration and/or repeat as many times throughout the day as necessary).On a larger scale, use some of the most gratifying activities you've come to enjoy to assist in the battle against stress. They don't necessarily need to cost anything (it doesn't cost much to take a sketch pad out to draw a landscape or to get out and climb a tree...preferably your own tree) but a reasonable expense is also acceptable (a ride along the coast on a sunny day top-down in a rented convertible, a round of golf, or a session out on the community airfield with a radio controlled airplane...however, if the expense or challenge of the mechanism adds stress, please find another coping mechanism to use). We're all different and there's no sense in stressing about choosing coping mechanisms so find your fun and you'll discover a mechanism that works for you!




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Thursday, January 28, 2010

Stress And Anxiety The Killer Among Us


By: Daniel Richard

Lets face it since September 11th, our lives have changed forever. Weve seen war in Iraq and Afghanistan, with no end in sight. Weve seen Wall Street collapse, and peoples life savings go down the drain. The economy hit the tank and people are in fear of losing their jobs, their homes, and everything precious to them. So its no wonder people are stressed, and have anxiety.

Stress and anxiety is a very real problem if its not treated properly. Lots of people dont even realize they have stress until it starts to effect their lives or their health. Stress and anxiety can cause all kinds of health problems such as high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, ect. But it can also cause lots of problems in your relationships, your family and so on. Money problems is the worst kind of stress there is, it can literally drive you crazy, but there is help out there you just have to let yourself get the help that is right for you.

I myself, have experienced stress and anxiety. About ten years ago I had really bad neck pain that would not go away. I went to the doctors several times, I even had a MRI done and it kept showing nothing wrong. I also at the same time could not be in a small room or enclosed area, because I would start to sweat, and feel like I was going to faint. My doctor then suggested It may be stress, so he showed me some techniques that I could do at home, and after about two weeks of trying his techniques, my neck pain went away and it never bothered me again, or the anxiety of being in enclosed areas, it was great. So in this article I will show you a little of what he taught me.

The first thing my doctor showed me was to look at things as positive as you can, in other words if something bad happens think of something about it thats positive. I know that might sound corny, but it works. If you have a bad day at work, leave it at work! Tell yourself that tomorrow will be better day, and so on, do this for every negative thing, make it positive even if its just a good fantasy thought.

The second thing he showed me was, music therapy that I could use at home. Its music with whats called Binaural Beats to help your mind relax. I downloaded it to my Mp3 player, and it really makes you relax, it has soft music with sounds of birds chirping and waterfalls, very calming. He told me for the best results find a quiet place with no distractions, use headphones and listen to it for about 30 minutes. It took a few times but it really help me out.

In conclusion, if you think that stress is starting to take over your life try some of the techniques in the article and if it does not help and you need more information please see link bellow.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Cope With Stress Before It Is Too Late


By: Linda Allen

Each of us encounters stress in one form or another on a daily basis; we encounter stress multiple times during our every day lives. Even more important, however, than the actual things that cause us to experience stress is our bodies ability to cope with stress. Anxiety conditions appear as a result of cumulative stress over time. For most anxiety related conditions, the best that medicine can do is keep some of your stress symptoms at bay, and even that claim is questionable. The more that the health care professionals learn about the medications used to treat your problems, the more they learn that these drugs often have unwanted side effects that are worse than the stress itself. The root cause of stress is rarely if ever addressed in a medical model, only the symptoms are treated. Doctors rush through dozens of patients a day, prescribing drugs and monitoring their effects. They simple do not have the time, and sometimes do not have the know-how, to delve into the complicated and connected conditions stress evokes.

Human beings were simply not meant to carry around constant disturbances in our stress response, we were built to respond to stress quickly and then to have those stress hormones dissipate immediately. When our bodies are exposed to wave after wave of stress, they begin to break down. Anxiety disorders have physical, emotional, mental, and even spiritual effects. Physical effects include shortness of breath, heart palpitations, trembling or shaking, sweating, choking, nausea or abdominal distress, hot flashes or chills, dizziness or unsteadiness. Emotional effects include feelings such as worry, anger, panic, and terror. Mental effects including thinking you are going to die, or that you are going crazy or are out of control. Spiritual effects include alienation and feeling detached and out of touch with yourself and others.

This probably as good a place as any to introduce the concept that cortisol is not a purely toxic substance, although in most cases too much of it certainly wreaks bodily havoc. In many ways, cortisol can be thought of as functioning like cholesterol or insulin. A small amount of each of these substances is needed for proper functioning. Cholesterol is needed for the steroid metabolism. Insulin is necessary for blood-sugar control. And cortisol is needed for the restoration of energy following stress. However, if levels of any of these vital compounds exceed a certain small amount for any significant amount of time, you can run into health problems. The whole point here is balance, keeping cortisol levels from falling too low or rising too high. How you cope with stress is a choice. The easiest choice of all is to do nothing and let chronic stress and elevated cortisol levels slowly break down your bodily defenses and increase your risk for disease. The more difficult choices are to do something about your stress level, the way you handle it, or how to cope with stress.

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Reduce Stress With 5 Tips To Help You Win The Race Against Time


"Oh my, how time flies!?

"My, my?..Look at the time.?

All these expressions suggest one thing. Time waits for no one. Time is important and you must utilize it to the fullest. What would be the best way to win the race against time?

Start with your habits. Make a list and examine your daily activities. Find out which among these eat most of your time and lead to lowest productivity. Look at these:

1. Too much TV time is the number one time stealer. TV time eats up time that should have been spent for sleeping and recharging.

Being hooked with movies or TV shows that keep you awake until late nights and early mornings can leave a heavy toll on your health. Sleeping with the TV on deprives you of a restful, continuous, and peaceful sleep. More often that not, these programs can wake you up in the middle of sleep, that you may find it difficult to doze again.

2. Nightly parties are also time stealers. Socializing can be fun and rewarding, especially if you aim to establish a wider network of friends. There is nothing wrong with going out with friends.

But doing this every night can really be a waste of time. Hang over results from too much liquor the night before. As a result, you cannot work productively the morning after. You become irritable due to lack of sleep. An irritable businessperson must keep watch of his temper, for clients might take their businesses elsewhere.

3. Accepting responsibilities more than you can handle will definitely affect your schedules. Learn to say "no? courteously. Limit your activities to those that produce more results. Pacing your assignments will help in keeping stress to the minimum.

Be on the look out for "time stealers,? those crafty people who will try to pass on their responsibilities to you. Leave time for yourself. Don?t give them all away.

Other time stealers are officemates who spend too much time chatting over the phone, those who use too much of their time discussing personal lives, and those who lament and loudly complain about their plight. All these can rob you of the concentration needed to be able to accomplish the assigned tasks.

4. Giving way for the convenience of others is a sure way to waste time. Imagine this scenario: You have been waiting in line. A good friend just arrived and sees the long line. He approaches and asks you to give way, for he will be late in another appointment. Will you give way?

Sacrificing your time for those in need of help is virtuous. However, sacrificing your time for those who want to put one over you is a no-no.

5. Lack of discipline will lead to mismanagement of time. Say, you are having a drink with friends and you have set your time limit. Upon reaching the time limit, you realize that you are having a great time that you allow yourself a little extension of another half-hour. After one extension, you again allow yourself another half-hour extension.

This kind of scenario becomes habitual and can eat much of your time. Be definite with your time so that you can utilize it gainfully.

These are just a few of the common time stealers. Be conscious of these habits that can definitely wreck havoc to your schedules. Keep in mind that time is important and you must muster every effort to utilize it to the fullest.
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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Coping With Unhealthy Stress


Everyone has stress in their lives. Stress is a natural part of life. You feel stress when you're overworked or eat too much. Emotional stress happens when you get sick, or worry about a loved one or money or have an unpleasant event, such as a death in the family. A lot of things cause stress; natural disasters, personal problems, relationship problems, problems at work, having a policeman stop your car.
While stress is usually adverse or unpleasant, short term stress can be healthy. It helps us perform better, gives us extra energy and helps us complete things on a deadline. Anyone who has done any public speaking or attended a job interview has had a case of the butterflies. Healthy usually stress goes away after the event is over. Stress may be caused by internal or external factors.
Left unrecognized and untreated, stress can make you sick and age you. It’s essential to find out what’s causing and learn how to deal with unwanted stress. The stress goes away soon after the event is over. Unhealthy stress, on the other hand, is continuous and can cause a lot of problems. It can contribute to everything from dry mouth, depression and feelings of tiredness, irritability, disturbed sleep, weight gain or loss and even hair loss. Stress can cause anxiety, depression, hypertension, addiction and a lot of other stress related illness. People suffering from stress can have difficulty concentrating, may be easily irritated and sometimes focus on negative thoughts, avoid interacting with other people and may have a decrease in sex drive.
Stress may be caused by internal or external factors. If you experience several of these symptoms at the same time, you’re may be suffering from a great deal of stress. Stress has the potential to harm your health and emotional well-being. You should consult with your family doctor if you think you may be dealing with stress that is out of your control. The point of dealing with stress is to be pro-active. If you do nothing to reduce or relieve the stress your health may be negatively affected. Left nrecognized and treated, stress can make you sick and age you. It’s essential to ask what’s causing and how to reduce the unwanted stress.
Dealing or coping with stress varies from person to person. Some stress can be a good thing, but sometimes it becomes necessary to find a way to master stress that is causing you to suffer. Sometimes a person has to stop trying to do everything and must learn to just say no.
Stress can be dealt with using medicine, hypnosis, exercise or self-destructive ways such as alcohol or drugs. Meditation Exercise is the most simple, readily available and easiest way to beat stress. In addition to dealing with stress, exercise is a way to loose weight and improve your mental and physical health. Another way to cope is to take an hour every day and engage in some activity that takes your mind off the cause of the stress. Work at a favorite hobby, or get a part-time job as a janitor in a department store (like I did) and sweep floors for several hours at night.
There is a lot of help for people who want to change the stress levels in their life. If you’re dealing with a lot of stress, see your doctor. Find a good listener to talk about things that’s causing you stress. The point is to do something that relieves the stress without resorting to a self-destructive activity.
There’s a lot of good information from the American Heart Association that can help guide you in dealing with unhealthy stress levels. The American Heart Association is a national voluntary health agency to help reduce disability and death from cardiovascular diseases and stroke.
The point is to do something that will relieve the stress without resorting to a self-destructive activity. Find something that will work to reduce your stress level, work at it and above all, don't give up.
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Marshall Crum is a 25 year safety professional who enjoys writing articles about self-improvement and other items of interest from a personal perspective. Coping with stress has been an issue for most of his life. Visit his website for more information about how he has learned to deal with stress