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Friday, June 18, 2010

Some Important Aspects of Self Esteem


By Darius Raeisi
When you think less about yourself it undermines your ability to do better things. It means you have self esteem issues. Many people in our world today have self esteem issues, which directly affects their behavior, how they think about the world, and especially about themselves. Having a good and high level of self esteem is very important in our lives. Your success and failure in life will depend on the level of self esteem you possess. Most importantly, almost every famous person, whom you see at the top today in all sectors of the world, have extremely high self esteem levels. Their high levels of self esteem they have did not just appear one day. In fact, the strong self-esteem was nurtured and fed, and their lives were made better by what they thought and how they behaved.
You can not just sit and wish for everything to be better. You must have an initiative, believe in that initiative, and move on with it. In this life, there are people who will always try to make you feel very stupid and useless, but this is where self esteem comes in. In cases like this, a person with a high self esteem hears all these bad and very painful things being said about him, but takes it as a reason to move on. On the other hand, a person with a low self esteem or no self esteem will just bear the hatred in his or her heart. They will have hatred for those people forever, which might also lead to very bad health conditions for themselves.
Success will come your way when you know what you are, what you want, where you want to be some day, and if you make adequate preparations to make sure you have a better life. Self esteem matters hugely because there are so many things that happen in our lives and we must know how to fight and keep our faith high. A person with high self esteem believes that he or she is the best no matter what anyone says. If you have a low or weak self esteem, you will be unfaithful to yourself, making your life a an unhappy one.
So, now it's your choice if you want to live with high self-esteem or if you wish to have a possibly meaningless life due to no self-esteem!
Darius has been writing online for a while now. He has a wide range of interests and topics that he likes to write about. You can check out some of his websites at http://www.tiltumbrella.net and http://www.automaticumbrella.org

Monday, June 14, 2010

Five Things You Must Consider When Overcoming Depression


By Norio Filiatrault
Have you ever suffered from depression? Is your family member or friend suffering from this condition?
Depression is a normal state for everyone. It is normal that we have our ups and downs in life, but when this persists for an unusually long time, it becomes problematic.
Now the question is how to get rid of it.
If you have depression, you know it's not a matter of just snapping out of it. It's much more complicated than that. One might say it is just an automatic feeling that come on. Another might say it is really just their nature and there is nothing they can do.
Depression is a habit that you created from many different factors and generally divided into two categories:
Body (Sensations, change in body functions) Mind (Thought patterns, beliefs, Imagination)
So now let's get into the:
Five Things You Must Consider When Overcoming Depression
Self Image
Attitude
Belief
Emotions
Habits
1. Self-image
Most of people with depression will have a poor self-image:
Do you think you are a person who is unworthy? Are you a loser? Do you believe you can't change? Are you a sad person by nature? Do you feel sorry for yourself?
These above ideas are really just ideas (mostly dragged on from the past) and they only serve your negative energy and strengthen it.
You must take note and write down what negative image you have about yourself and why you have them. Is it logical to think you are really that person? Are you being hard on yourself? Do you like to play victim? Is it scary to change your current situation?
These are all the questions you must ask yourself in order to identify your negative Self-images. Once you do this, you are more aware of your tendency and it will become easier later to alter your self-image to something better.
2. Attitude
How is your attitude in life? Is every situation working out the way you want it to? Do your actions bring you your desired outcomes or no? Are you repeating the same approach everyday and yet hoping for a change?
It's strange, but attitude is energy, and energy is contagious. You get what you emit. Changing attitude may be one of the hardest things to do, but just think this:
If you were the person or thing that is dealing with yourself, would you feel good? If your answer is no, then you're probably not doing the right thing. If you meet a person who is whining nonstop and feeling sorry for themselves, how would you feel? And especially if that person is by conventional standards comfortably living, than you may think he or she is self-centred. You may feel you are being neglected; and this is true. Lots of the negative attitude is really coming from the person being too self-conscious and thinking about themselves obsessively.
Try to treat every situation like the way you want to be treated. You will be amazed by the difference it will make on your days. After all, you create your own world right? Right!
3. Belief
Be careful of what you believe; this includes self-image and also anything other than yourself. when you ill-conceive something, you create a bad pattern or idea in your mind which can be a trigger for depression.
For example, in the case of human relationship, let's suppose your friend asked you " How much do you know about fashion?" One may think two possible ways:
"Oh is he asking me this question as a means of insult? Is my clothes really that bad today? Oh no..."
or,
"Nice, I love fashion and I'm gonna answer 'I know about fashion somewhat and I love fashion'"
Now this is just a rough example, but you get the picture. People with the former idea may be referred to as having Paranoia; a type of victimized thought at an extreme case.
This is very common in everyday life where people misinterpret comments or situations. Maybe the person asked this question because he wanted to become friends if both shared the same interest.
So be careful before jumping to conclusions. Take a step back and think logically. Do you really have to react in such way that is negative?
4. Emotions
This is probably where a lot of people get stuck. Human beings are bound by emotions. If we get compliments we feel good generally. If we are commented negatively we feel bad. With depression, this emotional response becomes mixed up. Even in good situations we may feel down. It is a habit that is formed over time.
So how do you overcome it?
It is hard no doubt, but you must challenge yourself. I would suggest you first work on your beliefs and self-image so you can think and act logically with ease. Then practice managing your emotions so your mind finally is able to connect to it and find the balance again. It took me a while to do this, but the only way to cure is by gaining experience and working on it from the conscious level and turn it into the subconscious level. Remember, the more good results you get, the more you will have confidence in all that you do.
5. Habits
This is just really to conclude the above mentioned four elements.
Self Image
Attitude
Belief
Emotions
These are all habits that were formed somehow at some point in your life (unless you have had it since you were born, in this case it's more of a genetic or brain damage problem. Consult your doctor)
Habits are very hard to change, but is worth working on in the long run. Make small goals for yourself everyday and work on them. Remember, it's baby steps that count!
Conclusion
Like all challenges in life, all of the mentioned ideas above will need effort put into them and measured constantly. It may be hard to imagine yourself getting out of the depressed state, but again that's where people get stuck. Of course it is not always easy days when working to improve yourself, but by succeeding( and you will by working on improving everyday) the pay off will be enormous.
Any ideas or comments? We'd love to hear them so please comment below. Also if you think someone you might know may benefit from this post, please let them know.
How To End Depression Team writes articles on how to change the mindset in order to effectively tackle depression and shares their expertise in order to make a difference in depression treatment.
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Thursday, June 10, 2010

Winning the Battle Against Major Depression


By Sean Young Q Mendez
Damaging feelings of unhappiness, worry and frustration are experienced by everybody alive. We feel disappointment right after a failure or sorrow after a separation or a loss.
Depression symptoms are a feeling that can occupy each one at some point in time. To be able to manage and overcome depressive disorders you will need to first recognize the causes of depression symptoms and overcome these unhealthy emotion or thoughts.
These damaging feelings are regular and do not affect significantly our ability to meet our daily obligations. You may even say that it is also useful to the extent that they help us to much better comprehend some of our weaknesses.
When the grief instead of decreasing by time it becomes much more intense and lasts much more than two weeks, and hinders the regular activities of our life such as work, diet, sleep and our close relations, then it is likely that we suffer from depressive disorders and we need the support of a specialist to deal with it.
Sorrow can train us so that we can face adversity that might occur later in life in a dynamic way. The self-knowledge arising from the bad experiences helps us to make the effort to change ourselves in order to avoid future damaging consequences of immature behavior.
The primary defining characteristic of depression symptoms is not the presence of negative feelings, but the intensity of the severity and the length of time involved.
To comprehend major depression all the much more, let us discover out the diverse symptoms that a person can experience when he or she has depressive disorders. Here are they:
1. Reduction of interest or pleasure in all or nearly all actions
2. Sometimes thoughts about death and suicide
3. Stress, anxiety, indecision
4. Loss of energy and exhaustion
5. A lot more or less appetite for food
6. Moodiness, for the most part of a day practically each day
7. Trends isolation, social withdrawal
8. Frustration, indifference
9. A lot more or much less sleep
10. Continuing grief
11. Loss of interest in the search for erotic partner or for sex.
12. Concerns and pessimism for the future.
13. Feelings of guilt
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How to Get a Grip on Severe Anxiety Disorder Right Now


By Af Riaz
Severe anxiety disorder is an illness that encompasses a diverse range of pathological fears and anxiety. All of us suffer from stress at some point in our lives. It's inevitable. The majority of people handle this anxiety or will ride it out until things improve safe in the knowledge that it will. However, some people aren't as strong and can let these emotions get on top of them. For these people the feelings of anxiety are hard to shake and will end up taking over their lives and cause concern to their families.
This is not a disorder that happens to a minority of the population. Extensive medical studies have shown that up to 18% of the American population is impacted by one of the many forms of panic attacks (quite a few suffer from more than one form of the disorder). Of all the many forms of anxiety disorders, anxiety attacks and panic attacks are the most prevalent. They are even more common than alcoholism and depression so all sufferers can be rest assured there are many other people out there like them going through the same emotions.
The panic attack symptoms are many and varied but they will typically consist of four (or more) of the following signs/actions:
  • Fear of dying
  • Fear of loss of control or of going crazy
  • Nausea or stomach pains
  • Blank mind
  • Diarrhoea
  • Feeling the need to escape
  • Dizziness
  • Profuse sweating
  • Highly accelerated heart rate
  • Shortness of breath/suffocation
  • Sense of confusion
  • Dry mouth
  • Tightness or pain in the chest
  • Shaking/trembling
  • Tingling or numbness in the hands and feet
  • Hot flashes or chills
  • Feeling as though time is going by incredibly slowly
The symptoms of severe anxiety disorder aren't nice and for many sufferers the feelings and emotions can be so intense they actually feel as if they are going to have a heart attack and die. Probably the most frightening thing about the panic attacks that occur is that they can happen at any time, night or day. It can be totally random and can get triggered by (to the outside eye) the most meaningless of things. Phobias play a big part in severe anxiety disorder. It could be a fear of animals, confined spaces, flying or simply leaving the comfort of ones house. For those people that know what triggers their panic attacks, this is no consolation as although they know they are coming they feel helpless.
Anyone who can relate to these symptoms really needs to do something about it. There are many options in terms of treatments for anxiety and overcoming panic attacks. Arm yourself with information and the many resources available online and you can beat this problem. You can start by trying to learn some relaxation techniques and trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.
This will help to eliminate some of the negative feelings severe anxiety disorder can make you feel. At the moment it is controlling you, the aim is regain control, to start thinking positive thoughts and start living your life again. It's not easy but with a bit of willpower, mental toughness and trying to reinforce a more positive outlook on life you'll find overcoming panic attacks and ridding yourself of severe anxiety disorder will be like a new lease of life.
Stop giving in to negative thoughts and start overcoming panic attacks. We have all the information you need on our site to help you rid yourself of severe anxiety disorder including treatments for anxiety to start living your life once again.

Gain Control of Your Life


By Elliot Zovighian
There are more and more people who are feeling helpless everyday. They're feeling like life feeds them one misfortune after another and now they're at the breaking point. Every time they lift their heads above the surface, something drags them back down, and swallows them whole. If they could only tread water long enough to catch their breath; if they could only become buoyant without fear of sinking. They can. To make that happen you have to take it to life itself and dictate the life you want to have.
Every single person is given signs as to the path the universe has in store for us. It is up to them to take firm control of their lives to alter the path into the direction they want to go. One may sense tensions, but unless they take action to find out the cause of those circumstances and take positive steps to resolve those issues, the universal path with be dictating where they end up. Usually in a place they don't want to be.
You see it is our destiny to adapt and move forward. Everything in nature adapts and evolves, and so must we as humans, each on individual personal quest. When are confronted with situations that evoke pain, heartbreak and disappointment, it is an opportunity for a person to grow and learn. It is what the universe wants from us to do. When a person keeps going through the same problems, or is in a rut, it is because they haven't taken the appropriate action to improve their life and learn the spiritual lesson they need to rise to the next level and be happy.
All too often people unhappy in their lives will lash out at those around them and blame them for circumstances in their lives. Or get upset with people in whom they confide because they won't support their self destructive mindset. Being a friend to such a person means saying and doing things they may not like to help them move forward. We all must endure things we don't like to move forward sometimes. It's a fact of life and is unavoidable. But really one must take responsibility for themselves. Look inward instead of pointing the fingers at others. Don't worry about others. Let the focus be on those things that are necessary to achieve the goals that are desired.
To gain control of life one needs to accept responsibility. It means stopping the blame game in trying to justify negative outcomes and behaviour. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, but we must accept out mistakes and learn from them. Every experience in life is an opportunity to become a better person. We get to our goals one step and one day at a time. By accepting that responsibility and putting into action those things you need to fulfill your goals, you'll have taken a swing at what life throws your way and taken a firm control of where you want to be.
Elliot Zovighian is the owner of EZLifestyles and is a personal coach, writer, speaker and father from Toronto Canada who is committed to helping those live easier, happier lives.
Elliot Zovighian is a life coach, speaker, author, blogger is the owner of EZ Lifestyles, a life coaching company from Toronto, Canada. His daily blog offers articles and advice on such subjects as life skills, work and career, relationships, parenting, featured videos and more. http://www.ezlifestyles.ca

Thursday, June 3, 2010

5 Tips to Get Rid of Your Negative Thoughts


By Trevor Johnson
Negative thoughts are natural. We all have them from time to time. But when they start to take over your life, you know that it's time to do something about them and stop thinking negative thoughts so often.
1. Catch your negative thoughts early
You probably know when you start to think something negative - you'll know the early warning signs. Nip that thought in the bud! Don't give it chance to breed and fester in your mind.
2. Mind your language
I don't mean the kind of language that you wouldn't hear on television before the watershed. Certain words are just automatically negative. "I could never do that", "There's no way..." and so on. You're thinking those words so swap them out for something more positive whenever you get the chance.
3. Turn off the news
News is almost always negative. Scandal and disaster sell. Happy stories don't get the ratings. Which means that the news is probably the most regular thing you're exposed to on a regular basis. Switch it off or change channel. And don't read the paper either, except maybe for the sports pages.
4. Wear a rubber band on your wrist
And flick it every time you catch yourself having negative thoughts. We react to pain, even small amounts like this. Over time, your body will start to associate negative thinking with pain and will begin to change how you phrase things in your mind.
5. Don't panic when you're not perfect
You likely won't be able to stop thinking negatively all the time. That's fine. Just aim to stop as much as possible - you'll find the quantity of positive thoughts increasing over time as a result of the other tips.
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Acceptance Vs Settling


By Terri Fox
Acceptance does not mean settling. We have to learn acceptance throughout our life. Sometimes we believe that we have to settle for something. It doesn't. In the world of bodybuilding, we have to accept what we have to work with (genetics). I am 5′3". I will never be taller. I accept that. I am a natural bodybuilder, so I have to accept the fact that I am limited in my supplementation. That is fine with me. I accept that at age 45 I recover at a slower rate than women half my age. What I don't have to accept is my body as it is today. I have the ability to change muscle mass and definition. That is something I can control. I can control it with the amount of weights that I lift, the contraction that I hold, the sets and reps I use and the food my body requires for change.
Before changes can be made, acceptance must be attained. Our minds have to fuse with our bodies. This does not mean acceptance of limitations, just acceptance of what we have to work with. As human beings we are constantly criticizing ourselves. We are our own worst enemies. I have heard so many times, "if only". If only what? Why waste valuable time thinking this way? We can't change genetics; we must work with genetics. Yes, it is challenging to say the least, but doesn't that make it more valuable in the end? Knowing that you have the ability to become a better you and that you alone hold the keys to that change, is the beginning. We don't have to settle for where we are in our lives at the moment. Settling happens when we decide not to make an effort. We settle for what we have and where we are. Acceptance helps move us in a direction to change. We accept a challenge. So get out of your own way; accept what you have to work with and begin building your foundation on that. Acceptance is your baseline. Everyone has to start somewhere. Accept your challenge to become a better you.
Terri Fox
Life Changes, be ready