Who Did You Want to Be When You Grew Up?

By Margaret A Hamilton 

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When I was young I wanted to be the female equivalent of Gene Kelly, I thought he was amazing and gorgeous to boot!

I loved watching the old musicals with the women wearing dresses to die for, the music, the dancing, the romance, they had it all. I grew up believing that was going to be my life some day. I would sing and dance myself into the arms of someone handsome who would sweep me off my feet and serenade me till dawn. Bliss. Then I grew up - boo!

When you're young anything seems possible, there are no limitations because your brain doesn't seem to have any. If you want to be a nurse, a pilot or the queen then you can. All you have to do is find the correct clothing (mums' old curtains and the tiara she wore at her wedding) and you're the queen. You know exactly how to act and how to treat your royal subjects (little brother) as the newly appointed monarch.

Then the teenage years hit, along with the acne and greasy hair and you start to wonder what an earth's going on? It's during these wonderful years of confusion and self discovery that you're expected to know what you want to do with your life. Isn't getting up for school tough enough?
When I was 15 the unemployment rate was at its highest and I remember my careers teacher telling my class that only 2 out of 30 of us would get a job. You've got to admire the man's optimism! Fortunately I was with a bunch of fairly bright kids and most of us managed to find work. I ended up working in an office, not a super star as originally planned.

My mum and dad were always of the mindset, work hard at school, get a job, settle down and have children. So I did everything according to their plan, not mine. It never occurred to me that there might be more or that there was life beyond Birmingham.

One marriage, three daughters and one divorce later I found myself wanting more out of life. I knew I was a strong person and had a lot more to give so I decided to step out of my comfort zone and apply for an Executive PA role. Not only did I get the job but it turned my life upside down! I got to travel around Europe and meet some amazing people.

Four years ago I felt I had outgrown my role as a PA and decided to take a leap of faith and start working for myself. I asked, 'Who do I want to be?' It turned out I want to be ME. Being ME is helping people to feel fabulous, to feel confident with who they are and to live life to the full. It's like putting the tiara on for real.

Who did you want to be when you grew up? Are you being true to yourself or are you living someone else's plan? Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and go for the dream regardless of what others expect of you. As Jim Rohn said, "If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much."

My specialty is working with women who want to feel fabulous and happy, helping them to have self belief, giving them the guidance and encouragement that they need to be the person they truly want to be. Visit http://www.margarethamilton.co.uk to make a start on your own life plan.

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Top 10 Questions About Stress

Author: David Algeo, Stress(ed) Guru

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Stress.  What is it really?  What do we mean when we say "I can't take the pressure?"  Or "I'm stressed out?"  Am I really?  Is it a bad thing?  Or do I actually need stress to get me going?  A lot can be involved when we start a discussion about stress.  And it's important to understand a problem before we can begin to find solutions for it.

Let's tackle the basics here with 7 top questions about stress:

1.  What is stress?

When we talk about stress, we really should be talking about the "stress reaction."  Okay, so what is the stress reaction?  In short, it is an evolved survival  mechanism.  Our senses transmit information about a situation and our mind has to make its mind up;  Am I safe or under threat?  If the decision is ‘under threat,' the mind activates the ‘fight or flight' response.  This then equips the body to proceed with that course of action.  It can occur in an instant, often before you are even consciously aware that there is a threat present.  It's about gearing you up to deal with the threat in order to survive, and then restoring you to your former (unstressed) state, once the threat has abated.

2.  Is there a difference between pressure and stress?

The problem today with these words is that they have become so commonly used and now carry a host of meanings.  Let's keep it simple.   Let's think of ‘pressure' (sometimes referred to as a stressor) as the thing that is applied to us and ‘stress,' or more accurately, our ‘stress response' as the response to that pressure.  An example;  your boss drops a big pile of paperwork on your desk requiring it to be completed by the end of the day (that's the pressure being applied), You, upon seeing this, then stand up, scream and run out of the office (that's your stress response).

3.  What is acute stress?

Some dangers and threats are immediate. Back in the day, when we were living in caves, hunting and foraging for food to live, our bodies evolved to handle the various threats we encountered. Upon realizing that we were in the presence of a dangerous predator, say a sabre-toothed tiger, the stress response was immediate and all-consuming.  Our breathing and heart rates soared, our adrenaline pumped, and all our energies focused on our immediate survival.  This exemplifies acute stress.  It demands a big response from your body, and hopefully it won't need to be maintained for to long.

4.  What is chronic stress?

Some dangers and threats last over a longer term.  Back to the caveman.  In addition to sabre-toothed tigers, there were other threats to survival.  There were periods of hunger, competition for scarce resources, hostile environments, and a host of other daily physical challenges.  Our bodies also used the stress response to adapt to these long-term threats.  When food was scarce, our metabolisms and other bodily functions would slow down so our continued survival required less food.  When bountiful times returned, so would our daily food requirements.  This exemplifies chronic stress.  It is our body's way of surviving those longer term threats or challenges.

5.  There's no sabre-toothed tigers today, why should stress affect me now?

Whilst the stress response itself has not greatly changed, what we deem a threat has.  Thanks to our mind's ability to recall past events and think about future possibilities, we are capable of activating our stress response when simply imagining a threatening situation.  So, unlike the Zebra who is only able to focus on the immediate threats, we can worry about a threat that might occur tomorrow, next week or next month, and subsequently activate our stress response.  And the situation need not be life-threatening for our mind to perceive a threat and thus activate the stress response.

6.  Do we all get stressed out by the same things?

The short answer is no.  Take the example of Christmas.  To some, it is a wonderful time for celebration, relaxation and reflection.  To others, it is an incredibly stressful time that begins with the annual ritual of untangling the tree lights and ends only after the last straggling relative has gone home for another year. How can this be?  Christmas is Christmas.  This is true.  The day itself, the 25th of December, is the same for everyone.  But the values, customs, social beliefs, and past experiences that we bring to a situation determine its effect on us.  Thus to some, Christmas is a source of great joy while to others, it can be a significant stressor.

7.  Does my own mindset affect how stressed I get?

Absolutely yes, and in a number of ways.  One of the things that determines how we will respond to something stressful is our perception of our ability to cope.  Do we have the capacity (physically, psychologically and emotionally) to handle the threat or challenge that we are facing?  What it boils down to is whether or not we believe we have control of the situation.  If we believe that we do not, we may experience an increased stress reaction, maybe even to the point of panic mode.  If that happens, we may become unable to decide upon a course of action, and indeed, lose control of the situation.

8.  How does stress affect me?

There are three key ways in which stress affects us.

• Physically:  Some of the ways that stress can manifest itself in your body are sleep disruption, tiredness, muscle tension, lack of energy, headaches and viral infections.


• Psychologically:  These may be a little harder to spot and include lower motivation, negative thoughts, the inability to switch off, negative self-talk and anxiousness.


• Behaviourally:  There are some behavioural changes caused by stress that you might want be on the lookout for, like working through breaks, craving energy boosters, changes in appetite, teeth grinding and taking work home, becoming irritable, withdrawing.

While any of these warning signs may also point to other issues besides stress, and therefore consider seeking professional medical advice, do consider whether stress is a contributing factor.

9.  Is stress all bad?

There is actually a positive purpose for stress, when used and managed properly.  The stress response is activated as a result of our brain perceiving a need for action.  The stress response engages our body, and we get moving.  When the alarm goes off in the morning, it is the stress response that tells our brain that we need to get out of bed. The brain then tells the body, and alas, we get out of bed.

10.  What could happen if I don't manage my stress?

The stress response evolved to help us out of sticky situations, but it was meant to be turned on for short periods of time when needed, then turned off.  However, if the stress response turns into chronic stress, it can contribute to the development of serious physical conditions such as hypertension, heart disease, stomach problems and even cancer.  It can also lead to psychological issues such as clinical depression, anxiety and panic disorders.

To sum it up, the stress response is our body's way of reacting to a threat.  We respond to the situation at hand and return to our normal state when the threat has been resolved.  It evolved to deal with short and even long term physical threats, so problems arise when we can endure long term psychological stress response activation.  Over time, this kind of chronic stress can lead to real physical, psychological and emotional problems.  Understanding how the stress response works, and applying stress management strategies to your life will go a long way toward preventing these kinds of problems in your life.
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Hi, I'm Dave Algeo, the Stress(ed) Guru.  I am all about making stress manageable and improving performance and wellbeing.

Check out my website:  https://sites.google.com/site/stressedguruwhite/home

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Through learning, humour and interaction, the message is loud and clear....

'Stress can be managed to improve motivation, health and vitality leading to greater personal and professional success and life satisfaction.'

With a policing background spanning 18 years, over 13 of which as an operational Sergeant, I have witnessed, experienced and worked with stress in its many forms.  From the traumatic to the trying, i know the mechanics of stress and the impact it can have on people and performance.
Whilst stress can be perceived as a negative force, it can be managed effectively using proven techniques and an individual approach.

I have delivered stress programmes to a range of organisations including, Northumberland County Council and Durham University.

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Do You Blame Someone Else For Your Mistakes?

 By Mike Bond 

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Are you a blame gamer? Are you the type of person who makes a mistake of some type, and who points your finger at someone else?

You're walking along in your office between rows of seats, carrying a tray of coffee. You trip, and of course the coffee goes everywhere.

"Wasn't me," you cry. "Someone stuck out his/her foot and tripped me."
No they didn't. For whatever reason, you tripped, and dropped the tray of coffee. You didn't mean to do it, therefore it was an accident.

I fear that nowadays, we live in the 'blame culture', where the words 'accident' and an 'Act of God' take a back seat. It seems that the key word today is 'sue'. Like that woman in one of the fast food places that spilled her very hot coffee all over her. Now, there are warnings all over those mugs or cups they give you that the contents is very hot.

Did she ask for cold coffee? No. She wanted hot coffee. She was given hot coffee. No-one attacked her. No-one picked up the cup and deliberately poured it all over her. She managed that on her own. Nevertheless, she sued the establishment and won! A tidy amount, I believe. It was her fault, albeit accidental, but still her fault nonetheless.

Let's take this to the extreme. If you blame all your faults, accidents and mistakes on other people, then whose life are you living? True, it takes a certain amount of character to 'fess up to a fault or mistake, to apologize when something goes wrong because of a mistaken action on your part. So do you blame someone else for your mistakes? Or are you a big enough person to accept responsibility for them?

The trouble is that if you start blaming others, it can become a habit. Automatically, if something goes wrong, you stand well back and if asked whether you had anything to do with it, you say emphatically, "no". On the other hand, do you accept the credit when you've done something well? You'd better believe it!

Another point is gossip. You take a colleague aside, and you start telling him what a frightful person is that man in personnel. Most likely, your colleague has never had anything to do with that person, but he politely hears you out. During your diatribe, he's probably thinking what a terrible person you are! Have you ever had that experience of being pulled aside, while someone bad-mouths someone else? How did you feel?

One good idea is that if something doesn't work for whatever reason, be it your fault, someone else's or pure accident, don't just saunter away and hope someone else finds the answer. You see what you can do. If it was your fault in the first place, then admit to it. If it was someone else's, don't point the finger.

You may find it'll be bitten off!

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How To Avoid Making Disastrous Mistakes

 By Sarah O Ityav 

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Disastrous mistakes are the ones that makes things end in a terrible way; be it in marriages, relationships and our everyday dealings. It has been said that the decisions you make will either make you or break you. Many people have made decisions that they today live to regret. There are families in which children are still paying for the consequences of their (late) parent's bad decisions.
Some mistakes we make as humans are avoidable and preventable. However, as God's children, we can completely avoid the ones that are disastrous; the ones that causes us irreparable damages - break up in homes, kill people in car accidents, get people involved in wrong relationships, wrong investments and wrong businesses. "I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.".

Ways To Make Accurate Decisions In Life.

- Put God first: You can never get a full understanding of anything, until you a full angle of God's understanding on it. Create time for God by making out thirty minutes for prayer and thirty minutes for the Bible, as soon as you get up from the bed each morning. The importance of putting God first each morning is, the rest of the day would surely be blessed.

- Never make important decisions when you are excited: At this point, there is a lust of the eye, the body and the mind. Always learn to sleep over an issue before making a decision. Don't let anyone put you under pressure. Watch it! when you begin to feel cool. Never make decisions when you are angry. The Bible says, "Be angry, but don't say your thoughts". For you cannot be angry and please God. Never break a commitment in a moment of anger.

- Avoid making important decisions when you are tired: The wisest decision you can make when tired is to go and sleep. Tiredness makes one get easily irritated by everything/everyone.

- Avoid senseless fights: Only fight the good fight of faith. Learn to keep your eyes on the work at hand.

- Don't jump into conclusions until you have heard all the facts: Don't make up your mind about anything, until you hear everything about a matter. Always hear every sides because there are two sides to a story.

- Don't steal the tithes: The tithe is the best insurance policy a child of God can have. Do not keep tithes away, but rather be honest with tithing. Tithes serves as a covenant between you and God.
- Always listen to your heart: The heart is the spirit-man it serves as a tunnel through which God's words passes through. The spirit-man knows a whole lot than the mind. Don't follow what the majority does, follow your heart.

Summary.
- Listen to the spirit of God to guide you.
- Don't do what others are doing, look up to God for directions.

Sarah Ityav, http://www.ears333.wordpress.com, How To Avoid Making Disastrous Mistakes.

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How Female Hormonal Changes Can Contribute to Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Author: Deanne Repich

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Some women are more sensitive to hormonal fluctuations than others. For many women, anxiety issues appear for the first time during periods of hormonal change. For other women, hormonal changes intensify previously existing anxiety symptoms.

Anxiety is one of the most common symptoms of Pre-Menstrual Syndrome (PMS), post-childbirth, and perimenopause (the period of time before the onset of menopause). It may take the form of panic attacks, nervousness, sweating, intense fear, anxiety combined with depression, or other overwhelming symptoms.

Here are several periods of hormonal change that can intensify or trigger anxiety in women.

Puberty -- Developing girls experience hormonal changes as they prepare to begin their reproductive years.

Monthly menstrual cycle -- Often girls and women experience PMS the week before their period.

Following childbirth -- The severe drop in certain hormones following childbirth can cause dramatic physical symptoms and a temporary feeling of depression or anxiety; in some women, it is prolonged.

Perimenopause -- Perimenopause is the period of time when the body is approaching menopause. It may last from two to ten years. During this time the menstrual cycle becomes irregular as the hormone levels keep fluctuating, causing some women to experience PMS-like symptoms.

Although many of us may use the term "going through menopause" to describe this period of time, it is actually called perimenopause. Many women experience panic attacks for the first time during perimenopause. Other symptoms such as insomnia, hot flashes, rapid heartbeat, and sweating are also common.

With surgical menopause (hysterectomy), you'll likely experience perimenopausal symptoms after the surgery, even if you did not experience symptoms prior to surgery. Symptoms can be prolonged and are due to the dramatic and sudden decrease of certain hormones as a result of the hysterectomy. 

In non-surgical circumstances, menopause occurs after a woman has no periods for twelve consecutive months. It lasts only one day. Many women report feeling better than ever mentally and physically after menopause, due to the fact that hormone levels stabilize.

Hormonal Change Triggers the Fight Or Flight Response

Due to the fact that hormonal change causes physical and psychological stress, it triggers our "fight or flight" response. The fight or flight response is the body's inborn, self-protective response to perceived danger.

When we perceive that we are under stress, our bodies send out a rush of cortisol, adrenaline, and other brain chemicals to prepare us to "fight" or "flee" the danger.

The fight or flight response triggers the physiological changes that we associate with anxiety, such as rapid heartbeat, increased blood pressure, sweating, muscle tension, narrowed mental focus, heightened emotion, and many other symptoms.

These are the same physical sensations that many women experience when their hormone levels fluctuate. In other words, most of the symptoms women experience during times of hormonal change are really fight or flight reactions. While these physical sensations are not dangerous, they can be very intense and overwhelming.

Our fight or flight response mechanism can become "hypersensitive" with the various hormonal changes in our bodies that take place from puberty to menopause. Many of us are in a constant state of stress due to our lifestyle and thought patterns, which also causes hypersensitivity.

In other words, our bodies may be stuck in the "on" switch of fight or flight. What normally wouldn't trigger symptoms, now initiates symptoms and perpetuates an ongoing cycle.

Fight or flight reactions in and of themselves are harmless. However, when our thoughts convince our rational minds that these symptoms are scary and dangerous, we create an anxiety cycle.

Anxiety consists of more than fight or flight reactions acting by themselves. Unproductive thoughts play a critical role in creating and perpetuating the anxiety we experience.
 
Our thoughts convert fight or flight reactions into anxiety, and a self-perpetuating cycle begins. Soon we find ourselves limiting our behaviors because of anxiety as well, which further entrenches the vicious cycle.

When a person is under stress, unresolved emotions and issues commonly come to the forefront. Because hormonal change is a major stressor, it can bring up internal conflicts and self-doubt in many areas of our lives. All of a sudden, we may find that the negative self-talk that we successfully pushed to the background of our lives during less stressful times is now playing center stage.

During periods of hormonal change, we may also feel uncertain about our changing roles (e.g. maturing from girl to woman, becoming a mother, becoming a mature woman past childbearing years), which can add to our internal conflict.

When we fail to successfully resolve internal conflicts and the unhelpful thought patterns that contribute to them, we create a breeding ground for anxiety. Combined with fight or flight symptoms, it's no wonder that these unproductive thoughts create and perpetuate the anxiety cycle!

What can you do if hormone-related anxiety affects you?

Here's some great news! The same tools that you can use to overcome anxiety due to other reasons can help you to conquer anxiety related to hormonal changes too.

Research shows that cognitive-behavioral techniques that help you change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors, lifestyle changes, relaxation techniques, and nutritional strategies (all found in our Conquer Anxiety Success Program) can help women dealing with hormonal changes.

These types of strategies not only help women regain a sense of control over their lives, but actually achieve improved physical and emotional well being! Here are a few tips to get you started:

-- Focus on reducing preventable stress in your life that triggers the fight or flight response -- stop the yo-yo dieting; increase sleep to eight or nine hours a night; exercise regularly; don't skip meals; cut back on your frantic schedule; and decrease stimulants, such as caffeine.

The body isn't designed for constant stress. When we are bombarded with stress, our ability to cope can become overwhelmed because the elevation in stress hormones makes the fight or flight switch remain "on."

-- Learn how to train your body to respond differently to stress so that you can automatically turn the false alarm "off" when the fight or flight response is triggered. Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, yoga, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation can help you achieve this goal. 

-- Most importantly, learn how to change how you think. Our thoughts are what convert the harmless fight or flight response into a vicious cycle of anxiety. Remember, just as our thoughts hold the key to creating anxiety, they also hold the key to eliminating it!
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Deanne Repich, founder and director of the National Institute of Anxiety and Stress, Inc., is an internationally known anxiety educator, teacher, author, and former sufferer. Tens of thousands of anxiety sufferers have sought her expertise to help them reclaim their lives from anxiety, stress, anxiety disorders, panic attacks, anxiety attacks and social anxiety. She is the creator of the Conquer Anxiety Success Program, author of more than seventy-five articles, and publishes the Anxiety-Free Living printed Newsletter for anxiety sufferers. To learn more about anxietyand to immediately download her free e-book Anxiety Tips: Seven Keys to Overcoming Anxiety, visit http://www.ConquerAnxiety.com.
   

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Lessons People Should Learn - But Don't!

 By Doron Gil, Ph.D. 

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I have noticed, time and again, an "odd" phenomenon: People invite upon themselves exactly that which they are afraid of. In other words, the way they behave is exactly the way which brings upon them that which they say they rather not experience!

Example 1: Fear of anger
Linda is afraid of anger. She is "scared to death" that others will be angry at her. Whether this is the result of her mother being angry at her from early on or not doesn't matter. What does matter is that she will do everything she can so that others won't be angry at her.
To achieve this "goal", she always behaves within a relationship the way her partner wants her to behave. And she always volunteers at work to do more work than others, just so that everyone will like her, just so that no body will be angry at her for one reason or another.
But here is the catch: she never keeps in touch neither with her family nor with her closest friends. This makes them angry at her time and again. Even when she realizes she hasn't contacted them in months she still doesn't initiate contact, fearing that now they will be angry at her for not contacting them earlier.

Example 2: Fear of rejection
Amy has taken endless workshops in her attempts to deal with her fear of rejection. Yet, she never keeps in touch with her friends, neither by phone nor by e. mails. When asked about it, she justifies herself by saying that she "doesn't like corresponding via e. mail" or "hasn't find the time to call".
Most of her few friends who kept in touch with her over the years have realized that they need to send her at least 2 or 3 a. mails until she responds, or leave her 2 or 3 phone messages until she calls them back.
Some of them who got tired from "running after her" for so long have stopped attempting to contact her. This makes Amy feel that "everybody rejects" her, yet she is not ready to take responsibility for her behavior.

Why do people invite upon themselves exactly that which they are afraid of?
Linda and Amy are "typical" examples of those who bring upon themselves exactly that which they are afraid of. They operate in the exact manner which boomerangs back at them, causing them to feel exactly what they are afraid of: Linda "does" everything to make others be angry at her, while Amy behaves in ways which perpetuate her feelings of being rejected.

Lessons People Should Learn - but Don't!
Why do people "do it to themselves"? Why don't they learn whatever it is that they should learn?
The reason being, that many are not aware of how they behave with and come across to others. Their fears drive them to behave in the exact way that causes them to be afraid in the first place. This is the way they "know themselves"; this is the "self-image" they have created for themselves: Linda sees herself as a person who others are angry at; Amy views herself as a woman who is always being rejected. Both are afraid to make a change in their life, since they don't know "who they will be if they change".
This might sound odd, but the truth of the matter is that many behave in one way or another according to the image they have developed for themselves, and even if this "self-image" hurts them more than helps they don't have the courage to stop their self-hurting behavior and make a change.

Becoming aware of your unawareness
As the examples of Linda and Amy show, such self-sabotaging behaviors perpetuate themselves over and over again. The problem is that those behaving like Linda and Amy often do so without being aware of their behavior and of the reason driving them to behave the way they do. This is the way they know themselves; they don't know better.

In order to make a significant and positive change in their behavior (life, work and relationships) they need to become aware of whatever it is that they haven't been aware of until now.
This is quite tricky, since how do you become aware of what you were not aware of until now?
The answer is:

* You make a conscious decision to look inwards and understand what drives you to behave the way you do (which sabotages you time and again);

* You get up the courage to realize a host of factors which you might not have had the courage to realize until now (for example, that by your behavior you "invite" anger or rejection).

* You take the time to contemplate and reflect about your behavioral and attitudinal patterns which you have been using over the years. Such a reflection enables you to understand, once and for all, what you have "gained" by behaving the way you did (As much as it might sound ridiculous, your self-sabotaging behavior might be a way for you to get attention from others - although a negative one!).

Becoming aware of what you were not aware of until now is the only way for you to initiate a conscious change in your behavioral patterns. Such a change will enable you to stop behaving in self-sabotaging ways and to free yourself from your fear of anger, rejection or whichever fear has become part of the self-image you have created for yourself.

Doron Gil, Ph.D., a Self-Awareness and Relationships Expert, is a university teacher, workshop leader, counselor and consultant. He has lectured widely on these and related topics at conferences world-wide, taught classes to students, gave workshops to parents and administrators and is the author of: "The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship". Available as e-book and paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Self-Awareness-Guide-Successful-Intimate-Relationship/dp/143925141X/

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Do Not Let Your Anxieties Overcome Your Motivation

 By Shawn S More 

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When you want something to change in your life, you have to take actions in order to bring about that change. The motivation that will drive you to reach your destination springs from focusing on your goal at all times. The outcome of your actions and the final outcome will spur you on to be on track.
True motivation takes birth when you desire something from the depth of your heart and are willing to leave no stone unturned to achieve it. Anxieties and obstacles are just minor distractions that you have to overcome in order to emerge victorious in your endeavor. The key to being relaxed while trying to achieve something is to brainstorm and come up with ideas regarding things that could possibly go wrong. When all bases have been covered, probable solutions and precautions to avoid the problems can help a lot. Also, having someone to help when you are surrounded by possible disastrous situations can also help boost your self-confidence.

Make yourself accountable to someone so that you do not slack in your duties. The fear of failing is most pronounced when you start worrying and let negativity pervade your thoughts. Know in your heart that you can achieve the thing that you have set out to do and also remember that you are prepared to face any type of situation or hindrance. Fear, worries and anxieties only keep you from performing at your peak potential. Be so engrossed in what you are doing that you do not have time to worry.

Plan everything in advance. Schedule tasks that seem more difficult for the time of day when you feel more energetic. Getting something done well is also motivating in itself. Know what drives you to transcend the limits of the possible and achieve something extraordinary.

It is also necessary to take time off when you are too stressed by your work or enterprise. In such a way, you will feel more refreshed and rejuvenated to attempt more difficult tasks. Just visualize the outcome of your undertaking and imagine yourself as successful. This will create a positive impact on your psyche and drive you further.

Do your research well and be extra careful in sensitive matters. When you know that anything that could possibly go wrong has been dealt with already, you can get some peace of mind. Be ready to ask for help when you need it.

There might be several commitments that demand your attention. Be sure to prioritize and deal with the tasks that are most important first.
Get rid of things that distract you and keep you from concentrating your total attention on the task at hand. Set some time aside for the distractions. The fear of failure is the thing that creates the most anxiety.

Always be ready to accept your failure, learn from your mistakes and move on to not make a similar one in the future. Do not let your anxieties grow. Make your motivation so strong that your anxieties seem futile and puny in comparison.

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