Are You Lacking Confidence And Self Assurance?

 by: Barbara Elisjones

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Barbara Elisjones explains how we can change our beliefs and be the person we wish to be.

Why do some people have confidence and self assurance whilst others lack these positive traits? Our ability to interact with others in the community comes down to our self belief.

Each of us has travelled a different journey in life – different parents, different teachers, different peers, and different life experiences with people. The interactions we have experienced with each of these people through life and the way that we responded to those interactions has created the person we are today. This includes all of our fears that we have generated, the way we participate in our relationships, the way we respond to others at work and the way we think about ourselves.

For example we can all remember things that were said to us by our parents and teachers when growing up – things like – “You will never amount to much” - “Why aren’t you smart like your brother” - “Why aren’t you well behaved like your sister” - all negatives that were implanted In our subconscious minds when we were very young. Our minds react to this negative information 24 hours a day and we go over and over these subconscious thoughts – until they become our beliefs. All these “put downs” then impact in a negative way on the way we see ourselves.

Advertisers make use of our subconscious minds knowing that we absorb any messages that cross our minds into our subconscious; and that is why advertisers repeat their messages continuously until these messages become our beliefs about the products and services they are promoting. Therefore we need to be aware that some of our beliefs are not based on fact. Instead they are based on messages provided by others.

What we need to know is that we can change these incorrect beliefs. We need to replace these incorrect beliefs with new beliefs. We use positive statements about ourselves to do this and repeat these statements over and over until they become reality. We also need to take a careful look at what we say to ourselves each and every day. How many times have we done something and then made the comment to ourselves – oh you idiot why would I do that? Although we did not mean that comment such comments need to be stopped. So we must keep correcting ourselves – and say positive things about ourselves and always say them in the present tense as though we already have the ability, skill or the characteristic we wish to have. Repeat to ourselves positive statements, for example – “I am a confident, happy, friendly person who enjoys interacting with people.”

The more we repeat these statements over and over again will enable us to replace any negative messages we have stored in our subconscious mind over a number of years and enable us to become the person we wish to be.

Next week I will discuss with you how to use this correcting exercise in combination with others to enable you to further the process and speed up the journey to be the person we wish to be.

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Overcoming Frustration in Your Life

 By Mazlina Rahim 

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I used to absolutely, completely, definitely, dislike or to be exact, hate frustration. It was a psychological response, I just can't help it. I feel like crap when it happens. I think you know the feeling. You feel hopeless and you ask yourself, "Why is this happening to me?"
How to overcome this.
First of all, you make friends with Frustration. Seriously!
The best part about it is that you can get over frustration. Frustration is actually a key component in your self improvement. Take it like an armistice. As any other psychological response, frustration harnesses a lot of energy. And you can use that energy. Actually, it's such a pity to let it slide away.
Now, the steps to be taken.
Step 1: Recognize the Problem
Accept it. Yes, you are frustrated. It's already occurred, and you don't have a time machine. You are here and you're frustrated. You are not sad, angry or indifferent. You are frustrated. Write it down and look at yourself in the mirror and say,"I'm looking at me and I'm frustrated". Then, next step is open up by telling a close friend of yours about your frustration.
Acknowledging the issue will make you feel better. The burden of keeping the frustration inside you has been released. The negative energy is out and this may stop you from doing silly things. You tend to do silly things when you are frustrated, right?
Step 2: Change the situation - Action Plan
Now that you know you're frustrated, act on the situation. Change the environment. Make it positive. Now think about the actions need to be taken. What is your plan A, B or C? Get a trusted person to sit down with you to plan your actions. Do you need to apologise to anyone? Write a report to the authority? Think it over and act! No more dwelling into that frustration. Move on! Some sort of sorrow coming your way? Take a deep breath and.. push it away! You are a better person now as you have acknowledged your frustration and planned your actions. Taking action is your goal now. You are reaching the next level of life already.
Step 3: Appreciate your New Level
After you began to take action, the atmosphere around you will look better. You have moved on. Don't dwell into it again! And, above all, enjoy it. Appreciate yourself for being able to overcome frustration. You have moved to the next level of life and let bygones be bygones.
Frustration is actually like an elevator in your life. Control it wisely. You want to be a better person, right? Frustration has brought you to a new level faster and be happy about it. Dwelling into the past is like pressing the down button and going to the lower ground when you are supposed to go up, let say, level 12.
Moral of the story is, if you are frustrated, it is not the end of the world. You, yes, you have the key to the solution box. Open it and use it to the max. You will become a better person and you gonna be proud of yourself.

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How to Lose Your Stress the Simple Way

 By Lynn Errickson 

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An incredibly interesting and also informative aspect of stress is that it's connected to your breathing. As well, if you begin observing when you start to be stressed, you'll find out that this is undoubtedly the situation.
When you're under stress, your breathing comes to be shallow, as if your body is truly straining to moderate its oxygen movement. Your shoulders also come up toward your neck, which farther prevents the in-out air flow.
On the other hand, when you're at ease, your breathing is typically both lighter and deeper. Your shoulders are likewise more relaxed, which assists with breathing too. Due to the fact that if stress is connected to your breathing, then that should also imply that your breathing is linked to your stress!
And provided that, it stands to reason that if you observe your breathing and execute some straightforward breathing techniques, you may really minimize stress. It's like having a little secret button that you can easily push anytime and anywhere that gets rid of your tension and anxiety!
Below are some uncomplicated strategies (or secret buttons, if you prefer) that can assist you lessen stress, as well as enable you to experience more tranquility, contentment, delight as well as success in your life:
Deep Breathing: Sit in a comfy chair. If you wish, you can likewise sit on the flooring I do not advise that you lie down when you do this physical exercise, as you could fall asleep! As you sit, place one hand (it doesn't matter which one) on your stomach. Take an unwinded, deep inhale. Don't stress whatsoever. This isn't really an aerobic activity. This is all regarding restful breathing. As you breathe from your tummy, feel your hand increase. If it's not rising, then that implies you're inhaling from your chest. Continue breathing in and out from your belly 10 times. Do this physical exercise daily, or even throughout the day if you prefer, and also view the results in your very own life. You'll not just feel greater, but you'll be able to fulfill your everyday tasks with renewed energy.
Hold Breathing: This is a bit more enhanced than the Deep Breathing workout we explored above, and also so I recommend you begin with this only after you've been Deep Breathing for a few weeks or so. With Hold Breathing, you'll breathe in for 5 seconds. You'll then hold your breath for 5 seconds. You'll then slowly release the air from your lungs for 5 seconds. If you locate that there is still some extra air in your lungs after 5 seconds, then that's completely great. The goal of Hold Breathing is just to help you pay more attention to your breathing when it pertains to discharging all of the air in your lungs.
The Golden Light: Merely take a breath consistently throughout this method. Breathe in and also envision that you are taking a breath in "fantastic sunlight." Take a breath out and also envision that you are inhaling out dark smoke. Picture the gold sunlight coming in to your body via your nasal passages, and going all the means down to your toes as you inhale in. When you exhale, imagine the air as dark smoke, and picture that you are discharging all the bad and also stress filled thoughts. If thoughts other than gold sunlight and dark smoke come in to your thoughts, delicately remove them. At that point return to concentrating on the gold sunlight coming into your body and also the darkish smoke heading out.
Try any of all of these breathing procedures to help minimize stress, as well as also protect against stress prior to it begins. You'll be able to fulfill your duties and also deal with your obstacles in a healthier manner.

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How to Improve Personality in 3 Simple Steps

 By Lynn Errickson 

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Self esteem affirmations are superb if you like to know how to create self esteem and to be more positive and self-reliant. These affirmations are a means of changing the method that you think, particularly the continual idea patterns that influence your self esteem. Most people would certainly benefit from making use of these affirmations, however they are not accustomed to the strategy. This is a pity, as building your own beneficial affirmations can easily bring amazing results.
To develop affirmations, there are a few basic steps you are suggested to follow. When you have actually grasped these, you will see the method is very easy to make use of and very effective in its results. Just follow these couple of simple ideas.
Specify your objectives
First of all, make sure that you are clear about what you are trying to achieve. Start by thinking about exactly what you imply by self esteem. Try to think about an individual (it could possibly be a popular individual or somebody recognized to you) who you deem having high self esteem. This will assist you to recognize what you are trying for, and to base your affirmations upon actions that you have noted in a person with high self self-confidence.
Self esteem affirmations work by influencing your subconscious mind. This part of your mind needs clear directions if it is to alter, and you have to make those directions as clear as possible. So you have to train it to follow certain actions which will certainly raise your self esteem. For example, you may choose that a person with high self esteem would certainly be confident in talking with new individuals, or in grumbling about unsatisfactory service. Whatever you pick, ensure that you prepare a listing of certain actions that you think a confident person would take.
Follow the formula of positive affirmations
There are 4 standard actions to the formula of positive affirmations, all of which are important if the approach is to be effective. Firstly, the affirmations need to be in the present tense (I am, not I will certainly be). Second, they need to be affirmative this implies doing away with the words not and no from your statements. Thirdly, the affirmations should be created in the first individual (I am, not it is really good to). Finally, they have to feature concrete circumstances, instead of abstract principles.
Examples of affirmations following all of these concepts are as follows:
I am assertive in speaking with new individuals.
I am confident in clarifying that I have actually received unsatisfactory service in a bistro.
I am comfy when I converse in foreign languages.
I have a regimented approach to my fat burning program.
You will see that all of these affirmations follow the four standard concepts present tense, affirmative, first individual, and consisting of specific situations.
Practice your affirmations
When you have actually drawn up your affirmations, there is one final step. You have to practice your affirmations on a regular basis. The greatest strategy is to state them out loud twice a day, in the morning and the night. This is a way of training your subconscious mind to accept the reality of the affirmations. We are all familiar with the concept that physical exercise needs to be done on a constant basis, so that the body does not start to lose the benefits of training, and the mind is no different from the body in this respect.
If you follow these steps, you will certainly discover that your self-confidence increases, and that it becomes a natural part of your behavior.

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The Goal to Learn

 by: Cheryl Wilms

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Do you have a goal to learn? Do you strive to continuously gain more knowledge and have a better understanding of the world in which you reside? Do you have a thirst for knowing more in the subjects in which you are interested in?

The pursuit of more knowledge is one that I can relate to. There is not a day that goes by where I’m not looking into something or striving to push myself towards becoming a better person. I firmly believe that we need to continue to learn and educate ourselves to reach our full potential.

Ways that we can all continue to learn and grow into the person we desire to be are:

Reading: I cannot stress how reading is such a simple yet powerful way to improve ourselves. We have libraries available to us. All the knowledge and the answers to so many of our problems are there for us to utilize, most of them are free of charge or a small charge for the year. The answers are all there in one building…..we just need to go get the answers.

Courses: There are courses for so many interests these days. If you search out your area of interest, you will be surprised to learn that there are courses, seminars, and events that allow you to learn more about your interest and meet others who are interested in that subject in which will allow you to learn from them as well.

Internet: Google–need I say more?

The goal to learn more is powerful in achieving success in our lives. If we do not learn, we do not progress, if we do not progress, we stay stagnant. Give yourself the gift of pushing yourself to learn in order to become the person you want to become.

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Cheryl Wilms is a WAHM Coach and Law of Attraction enthusiast providing resources for Moms seeking personal transformation. Cheryl is dedicated to showing women how apply the law of attraction into their daily lives and empowering themselves up to discovering the incredible power we hold within. She is also an advocate of positive and inspirational living. Cheryl has been always been aware of her passion to provide insights to others to connect with their inner power and to live a life we desire. Since then she has been studying and emersing herself with anything she can get her hands on with the subject for the last 15 years. Cheryl is currently pursuing a career with WAHM coaching and is also an aspiring writer.

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Why It Is Better To Simplify

by: Amy Twain

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Even in those times of frantic pacing and harried lifestyles, you know that you always have the choice to simplify and do less. It is the solution to almost every aspect of our lives.

To simplify is the answer to your financial difficulties: Shop less and spend less. Don't try to spend more than what you actually earn. Cut back on your bills and decrease your debt. Rather than trying to handle all your bills and expenses, try to simplify. If necessary, have fewer credit cards, of get rid of your credit card if you have to. Eliminate your financial problems so that you

will have lesser stress.

Got some time management problems? Try to do less and manage less on your agenda and you would get rid of the difficulty of trying to handle it all. Instead of figuring out how to deal with your packed schedule, strive to simplify. Decrease your commitments if you can't handle it. Decline some projects, meetings and some favors which will only eat most of your precious time.

If you want to end your storage problems, begin to simplify be minimizing clutter. When you have lesser things on your possessions, it means you need lesser storage. When this happens, life becomes less stressful. In the process, you will save a lot of money when it comes to maintenance and storage.

Indeed, it's not that easy to simplify especially if you're one of those who hoard most of your stuff but in the long run, will simply accumulate space which you need to store other important things.

Simplicity requires the courage to say no to commitments, to let go of your unnecessary stuff, and to be different than the way we always used to do things.

Consequently, you'll realize that it's all worth it--less hassles and stress and more efficiency.

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Knowing Who You Are

 by: Roseanna Leaton

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The Movie "Eat Pray Love" is based upon an individual's search to find herself. A growing number of people spend much of their time wondering who they really are and what their real life purpose is meant to be.

We in general live a life of luxury. There is little real hardship in the way that we live in the Western world today. We have more money, more creature comforts and a greater ability to pursue myriad activities both near to home and far away. When you are being deprived of basic necessities in life your focus inevitably remains glued to the task of survival; one doesn't have time to luxuriate in ponderings about who you are or what your life's purpose is. Your purpose is simply focused upon staying alive.

And so the more comfort you have in your life the more time you inevitably have with which to focus your attention upon things of a more philosophical nature. Ironically the more we have the more dissatisfied we appear to become as we simply move our focus on to different things. When, I wonder, will we as a community finally appreciate what we have got and allow ourselves to enjoy a feeling of balance and satisfaction in our lives?

Julia Roberts, in this movie, sets out on a course to find herself which takes her to Rome, India and Bali over the course of a year. In Rome she learns to enjoy food for its taste and not worry about calories or weight gain. She also learns to make platonic friends and to live alone instead of constantly being in one relationship or another. She's not totally at one with this new experience, but she's apparently learning from it.

In India she learns to meditate and to further relax her thoughts, to a certain degree. She feels a little more centered but still knows that her journey is not complete. On she moves to Bali. Here she has to face a challenge; can she enter a close relationship without losing herself once more?

I'm sure that many people could empathize with several of the emotional tussles which were being expressed in this movie. Many people wonder who they are or what they should be doing. Many more wonder where their soul mate is and how they are ever going to find them. Some people shy away from relationships because they feel they will lose themselves if they were to commit; others throw themselves into one relationship after another and find themselves molding their habits and behaviors to whoever they are with.

All of these scenarios reflect a certain amount of emotional conflict, instability or insecurity. The quest to find oneself frequently takes people away from home, in search of peace and quiet and tranquility. The fact remains that you find this peace only when your mind becomes peaceful; this does not necessarily mean you have to go away so as to find peace.

Having said this, sometimes one finds it easier to totally change their environment so as to break old habits. The thing to remember though is that you generally have to go home at some point and still have to take the peace which you have found back home with you too. Otherwise you have not achieved any long term resolution to emotional turmoil or insecurities.

And when it comes to relationships, if you have really found your peace, and found yourself, you will not fear losing yourself. You will feel confident and secure in being one of two whole people who share a relationship as opposed to being one small fraction of a whole. Fears are only ever borne from your own chosen (although often unconsciously so) perception of a situation.

An alternative approach to finding yourself is to take time examining your thought processes and expectations in life and then focus upon ways in which you could think more powerfully and productively. To feel balanced and satisfied in life you have to learn to feel happy with yourself as you are, to stop comparing yourself to others and instead to feel confident being you.

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