Tips to accepting who you are!

Author: Muriel Ilunga 

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Don't like what you see in the mirror? Not satisfied with your structure, hair and teeth? It is not a strange and abnormal feeling but the problem is how to deal with such negative feelings about yourself that break you down.

Try following these simple steps:

1. Tell yourself you are unique in every way; love yourself for you are more especially from within yourself. Unless you love and care for yourself, no one will do it for you.


2. Look at what you are good at. Not good enough? Nope, remember you are unique and you must be definitely good at something no matter how small. If you do it whole heartedly, then it comes out big.


3. Do not mirror yourself to others. Yes, everything they touch works out well. You think so? We are not always satisfied with what we do we want more. But learn to appreciate your own effort and stop comparing yourself to people you think are perfect, they are humans they also make mistakes!


4. Finish your tasks in time. Have a "to do list" today evening for tomorrow or early in the morning and allow flexibility as long as you prioritize the most important tasks.


5. When did you have time for yourself? Sitting down, relaxing, appreciating you are and not expecting to be 100% at everything. Count every 1% you do, every effort counts and slowly strive for more.


6. Develop the "I can do it syndrome"! Say "I will…." And not "I can or should", use the active verbs.


7. Don't only and always expect to be treated well. Make other people around you happy not by always cracking jokes but also by behaving in a way that does not irritate them.If it does not matter to others it is not you but their personal problems

•       Above you are capable of changing yourself for the better, smile lighten up in whatever situation you are facing. Remember it is not always about you when things go wrong.

• Care for your health by having a proper diet with vegetables and fruits, exercising, drinking at least 2 liters of water a day, having enough rest up to 8hrs, and avoid watching TV for more than 3hrs.

Do the following every day:

• Use positive active words to describe yourself


• Do good even if it does not matter to others


• Always smile to yourself and others (avoid being overly serious)


• Be clean: your room, house, clothes, shoes, hair, teeth, nails, eyebrows if you can….


• Eat for your skin and overall health


• Visit a counselor not only in a difficult situation.

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Muriel Ilunga is persuing her Diploma in Liberal Studies and has a certificate in Community Health.she is eager to help people through her articles.
   

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How Do You See Stress?

 By Narendra Goidani 

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Do you see stress as a bad thing? Most of us do. Guess what? It doesn't have to always be bad. You can use stress to get things done, motivate yourself and feel good about reaching your goals.
I'm sure you are saying to yourself, "Hold on here, I am trying to get rid of stress, not take any more on!" While that is true of the bad stress, also known as distress, what you may need more of is the good stress, eustress. Eustress is stress that is deemed healthful or giving the feeling of fulfillment. It helps us meet our goals, take action and eliminate the bad stress. Physical exercise is a form of good stress-it is the action of working out that places some degree of stress on the body that ultimately develops and improves our lungs, heart and muscles. It releases endorphins that help elevate our moods and protect from depression.
OK, so aside from physical exercise being eustress, watching a scary movie, riding a roller coaster, and feeling excitement at the top of a ski slope are some other examples of eustress. Athletes feel eustress prior to taking the field and speakers feel it before to giving their talk. It often helps fuel us to keep moving forward, doing just a little bit more and more until we have met our objectives.
On the flip side, most of usknow and understand the negative impacts in our lives from too much bad stress such as, but not limited to:

• High blood pressure
• High Cholesterol
• Heart Disease
• Depression
• Diabetes
• Obesity
• Short Temper
• Coping Challenges

Recognizing where you now, as a result of destructive stress, gives you the opportunity to change what is going on in your life whether it be poor health or poor relationships.
Here are a few suggestions to try as you change how you look at the stress to reduce and eliminate the bad stress:

1. Stop looking at everything as negative. It is natural to always say "I knew that was going to happen" or "Nothing works out the way it should." Instead, think along the lines of "Everything happens for a reason, and that wasn't meant to be right now" or "Next time it'll work out better." Look at what is going on in your life with a positive spin so that you can let go of negative feelings.
2. Determine who is putting the bad stress on you. Often it is you who puts the stress on you! Sometimes, it is an outside force. What matters is that you see where it is coming from and then take steps to change how you are reacting so that you respond in a way that is not stressful.
3. Turn your attention to the outcome. Make a plan and put deadlines on it so that you finish what you want to accomplish in a reasonable timeframe. This puts the emphasis on the outcome and the deadline is the eustress. Use the feelings of accomplishment as something that will motivate you.
4. Remove the obstacles. Do you have time stress, too much to do stress, or guilt stress? Identify the obstacles and letting go or re-working them releases you to be stress-free.

Once you look at your stress differently, it's time to put some eustress tactics into action.

1. Challenge yourself daily. If you work out, try a new exercise or add weight to your routine. If you like to exercise outdoors, try a different route. If you are afraid to speak up to someone, challenge yourself to speak up for yourself.
2. Stop being afraid of trying something for the first time. Afraid to ski? Find the smallest hill and stand at the top, go down it and feel the excitement-that's good stress! Afraid to speak in front of people? Know that the feeling you will get when you're done will be amazing and make it all worthwhile. Again, the eustress will lift and carry you forward!
3. Don't mistake your stress. Often something that feels scary really is good stress. It's easier to just say "I'm so stressed" no matter what the circumstances because it is a habit and it feels comfortable. That stress may be what you need to accelerate your life!
4. Obstacles can move you forward. Are you avoiding doing something or constantly doing something that causes you anxiety? It could be that you once you tackle and accomplish them, you can lay that pressure aside or discover that you just took one giant leap ahead.

Remember, stress does not have to be bad-as you can see, it can be good. The trick is to adopt the attitude to have more eustress and less distress. That is where the freedom lies, where the accomplishment lies and where the joy lies.
Now that you see stress differently, how will your life be better? How will you be better?

Kim is a Certified Professional Coach and Fitness Instructor. She helps busy women take the mystery out of diet and exercise and teaches them fun and effective ways to lose weight, eat better, and look and feel attractive in their bodies. Kim's clients have the energy to play with their kids, manage their household and business, control their lives, stop feeling guilty about themselves, and find their true happiness. If you haven't read Kim's story, please visit her website http://www.kimravida.com so you can 'meet' her and get to know her better. Then, drop Kim a line at kim@kimravida.com as she is eager to get to know you, too.

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How To Really Love Yourself

By Cassie Parks  

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Ever since the various self-actualization movements came into existence during the 1970s, the term "love yourself" has been thrown around so much that it seems to have lost most of its meaning. It's easy to tell those who are sad, frustrated or disappointed with the way that their lives have turned out that all of their problems would disappear if they would only love themselves more. However, effective ways to achieve this goal are rarely discussed among those who advise others to give their self-esteem a boost by boosting their self-love. In fact, they frequently make it sound as if falling in love with yourself is as easy as falling for a fascinating new lover. However, that simply is not the way that human nature works. Following are some ways that the average person can increase his or her self-esteem and live a better life as a result.

Increasing Self-Esteem Through Actions
How people spend their time can have a significant impact on how they feel about themselves. Doing things that benefit others is an excellent way to elevate self-esteem. This does not mean that it's necessary to spend most of one's time performing charitable work in order to have a strong sense of self-worth. However, a certain amount of selfless charity work can improve anyone's perspective.

A Good Self Image Doesn't Depend on Putting Others Down
Those who harbor negative feelings about who they are as human beings frequently attempt to compensate by putting others down. This always backfires, however, and leaves the person who puts others down feeling worse than before. This type of behavior often becomes such a habit that some people aren't even aware of it when they put other people down.

The Perils of Bluffing, Boasting and Bragging
Many people unknowingly attempt to increase feelings of self-worth by boasting, bluffing, bragging and otherwise puffing themselves up. Like putting others down, this behavior has the opposite of the desired results and is always easy for others to see through. Those who use this tactic to boost their feelings of self-worth frequently find that the behavior becomes so ingrained in their personal interaction patterns that they don't even realize that others are not reacting to them in a positive manner.

People who have developed healthy levels of self-esteem spend very little time actually thinking about themselves. On the other hand, those with negative self images are constantly thinking about how others see them and sometimes become so socially immobilized that they have a substantial amount of difficulty functioning in social environments. Ironically, people who spend substantial time wondering how others view them are frequently blind to the normal signs that indicate whether they are being seen in a negative or positive light. Those who experience true self-love are comfortable around others, but more significantly, other people are at ease around them. The most effective way of knowing what people truly think of themselves is to observe how other people feel when they are in their presence.

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Tips for Improving Your Memory While Studying

 By Lance Winslow 

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The other day, I was talking to a young gal at Starbucks, she was studying for one of her tests, and she was also writing a paper or an essay for one of her course, the paper was on genetic manipulation and modification of humans. Her job was to write a paper against it, and why humankind should not move forward with these technologies. While she was studying and attempting to figure out how to write this persuasive paper for class, I could tell she was stressed because she was taking many prerequisite classes for general education to fulfill all the credits she needed to go to the next step.
If you are a college student, or even if you are still in high school, there are many ways to improve your memory so that you can do well on tests, and not forget what you read, as surely you will need it later in preparing for assignments, group projects, or in this case an writing an essay. First, if you wish to improve your memory, you should consider getting the proper amount of sleep, slightly modifying your diet, learning how to rapidly scan material, and to associate your current knowledge with the new bits and pieces you read regardless of which category they are from.

There are many foods that you can eat which will improve your memory, and it only takes a few moments to go online to see what they are. You should add these to your diet, make them a habit, and continue that throughout your schooling. If you are in a high stress job where memory is essential, you might consider doing the same.

Now then, perhaps you've heard there are ways to help you remember people's names. The best way to remember someone's name is to repeat their name after they give it to you, then to figure out some way of memorizing and by association.
For instance, my name is Lance.

You might think Lance is a sword like weapon used by Knights, and that there was a once famous Sir Lancelot in a famous tale. Then you should spell the name L-A-N-C-E and state it again, even if you do this in your own mind. At the end of our conversation you would remember my name and say; "It was good talking to you Lance," or "Have a nice day Lance."

Then, an hour later you should recall our conversation and my name, and something about me such as my profession, personality, and the topic we discussed. If you do that the likelihood of you forgetting my name becomes improbable.

You can do the same thing while studying. Use the same strategy. It works for studying information too, especially much of the rote memorization you need to do in school to ace tests and maintain a fast memory recall.

Lastly, you should recall the information again after you read it, and use that information when talking to someone, and also writing it down. You should review that information at the end of the day, and again after three days, and then at the end of the week. If you do that, you won't forget what you study, and you won't have to cram for the test at the end of the semester causing you to lose sleep which will hurt your memory when you actually take the test. Please consider all this and think on it.

Lance Winslow has launched a new provocative series of eBooks on Improving Study Memory. Lance Winslow is a retired Founder of a Nationwide Franchise Chain, and now runs the Online Think Tank; http://www.worldthinktank.net

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Find your Strength

Author: Aaron M. Potts

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As Dr. John Hagelin says in the amazing movie ‘The Secret', "You can have, do, or be ANYTHING". Rev. Dr. Michael Beckwith backs him up in the same movie when he says, "You could start with nothing, and out of nothing, and out of no way - a way will be made".
These are powerful statements and they are 100% true and accurate. The question then becomes, "How do you invoke this amazing ability"?

There are many books, products, and services available in the world that can teach you the actual methods for using the Law of Attraction in order to get what you want out of life, and many of them come highly recommended. However, they all start with one very simple yet powerful question that you have to be able to answer in order to properly utilize them. That question, simply put, is "What do you want"?

You could have a blank check in your hand that you could fill in for any amount of money in the world in order to assist you to find happiness, but if you don't know - specifically - what it is that you want out of life, no amount of training and no amount of money will help you to get it. You have to first ask yourself what it is that you want, and also dig deep down inside in order to find out WHY you want it.

The "why" part of our desires is the most critical factor in this equation, and it is also the factor that is most commonly overlooked. Not understanding exactly what we want and why we want it is one of the biggest reasons why so many people are not happy or as satisfied with their lives as they would like to be.
Finding your Strength is just another way of realizing that you need to find your true motivations in life. If you are truly motivated about your life, then you will find the strength and the means to do whatever it is that you are trying to do. On the other hand, if you are not clear on why you want any given thing, then your motivation will be minimal, as will the results of your efforts to attain the objects of your desire.

If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction, then you know that the basic principle is that when you focus your thoughts and your feelings on what you desire, then that thing will come into your life. This applies to material goods such as cars and houses, but it also applies to less tangible desires such as enjoyable long-term relationships, inner-peace, weight loss, financial status, etc.

In order to bring those things into your life, you simply need to focus on why you want them, and believe that you will get them. The Law of Attraction - which is a scientifically proven principle - will bring those things to you. However, there is another side to this equation that you can use to create powerful "why" reasons for having those things to begin with.

It is easy enough to think about how great it would be to have a really nice car, a huge house, a significant other that is all that you have ever dreamed of, or to simply have enough money to truly enjoy your life. An equally powerful tool at your disposal, however, is to think about what it is like to NOT have those things. I'm not talking about focusing on the negative fact that you don't have them - that is clearly against the "rules". However, in order to empower yourself to realize why you want those things to begin with, consider what it is like to NOT have them.

Is your car old and beat up, keeps breaking down, and you are ashamed to be seen out in public driving it? Are you embarrassed to have guests in your home because it is old, too small, or in a bad part of town? Do you frequently think about how you can't find the perfect girl or the perfect guy? Are you tired of creditors and bill collectors calling your home, or do you find yourself just "getting by" in life because you barely have enough money?

Obviously the answers to those types of questions will invoke a negative reaction on your part, and it is unlikely that you relish the idea of spending even another day thinking those types of thoughts, let alone another decade, or another 60 or 70 years.

So, although the majority of your time should be spent focusing on the positive aspects of actually having the things that you want, you should start out that process by considering how you would feel if you were going to have to continue to be unhappy by NOT having them.

How would you feel if you were stuck with your old piece of junk car indefinitely, and you could never have a nice sports car, or a fancy BMW, or a Mercedes? What would you think about being doomed to live in a small home or apartment for the rest of your life, visiting other people's mansions and knowing that you could never live in such splendor? How would it make you feel to know that every relationship in your life was always going to be "sub-standard", and you would never find the person who looked or acted like your "dream mate"? Consider what it would be like to fight off bill collectors for the rest of your life, and to never be able to travel, buy nice things, and live a life of happiness and abundance.

By now you should be starting to see the point of this exercise. In order to find the Strength needed to motivate yourself to invoke the Law of Attraction and bring into your life all that you desire, you simply need to consider what it would be like to live the rest of your days WITHOUT those things. Then, once you are fueled by an intense understanding of why it is that you want whatever it is that you want out of life, you will be prepared to start the positive process of utilizing the Law of Attraction to bring those things straight to you, every time, without fail.

Find your Strength today. When you truly understand what you want and why you want it, then simply focus on that, believe that you will have it, and it will come to you. Guaranteed.
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Aaron Potts is an ex-personal trainer turned lifestyle coach who uses his training experience combined with an understanding of the Universal Law of Attraction to teach people to create positive and permanent changes in their lives. His students are people of all ages and all walks of life, and you can learn more about his teachings at http://www.todayisthatday.com, or you can contact him directly at aaron@todayisthatday.com.

   

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Strategies To Find Job Search Success in the New Economy

By Regina Cho  

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I read in the news that Apple announced it has sold over five million of its new iPhone 5, just three days after its launch and to sweeten Apple's products demand, more than 100 million of Apple's latest operating systems devices have been updated.

Apple's success is an important indication that the Internet has taken over the new economy. The latest trend of using social media to find job has moved to a dynamic speed. Savvy job seekers knows that they cannot solely rely on traditional means in looking for jobs.

Traditional job search includes strategies such as looking in the newspaper classified advertisements, searching through 'help wanted' notices on bulletin boards, going to recruitment or job agencies, and write in for jobs opportunities directly to the companies. All these traditional ways of job search involve an individual reacting to a job that has already been publicly offered.

Although, traditional methods are still necessary, creative, well-informed and socially Internet savvy job seekers will take a step further to stay ahead of their competition by creating an online presence to reach out to more prospective employers. That is because they know that more and more recruiters use the web as a place to search for talent and conduct employment background searches. This trend will set to increase over the years.

Here are 3 ways you can use social media to enhance your job search success:
1) Build your online presence on social network sites.
Make employers find you easily online and thus open doors to more job opportunities. Without an online presence, you will not appear to be as relevant as those who has and you will be passed over for more savvy applicants that have online visibility. Creating online presence include

• LinkedIn- A networking tool for professional connections. Also used to recommend job candidates, industry experts and business partners. Employers use LinkedIn as a search tool to find talent, and job seekers use it to leverage their network in support of their search.
• Twitter - Social networking and instant messaging that allows users to post 140- character updates. Employer can use twitter to post for job opportunities.
• Facebook - A social network that connects people, to keep up with friends and share ideas. Depending on their privacy level, some job seekers have successfully secured a job through their Facebook network.

2) Create a blog to demonstrate your expertise
Another good way to further boost your image and demonstrate your experience, expertise and passion in a particular field is to create an updated blog. Keep it professional, creative and update it with value add contents for readers. The articles that you post may include tips and advice on issues in your area of expertise, also be mindful that everything you write and post online is up for judgement.

3) YouTube and Pinterest Marketing
Internet savvy job seekers are making use of video marketing to promote themselves. This is a creative approach to job hunting that has become increasingly common in the social media arena. You could create a video resume, such as a short and traditional video that include a general rundown of your work experience, educational background and skills.
While Pinterest is not a networking platform, as it does not allow direct communication, it is becoming increasingly popular with businesses. It is a powerful tool to demonstrate your knowledge, organisational skills, and creativity to prospective employers. You can create boards which relate to specific skills-sets you have and use it as a portal to link to work you want to showcase - like an online portfolio.

4) Online Resume
In the new economy, it has changed the way employers review resumes, the Internet has also made it possible for job seekers to post their resumes online, on their own hosted web sites. This change is particular helpful to those persons whose resume presentation will be greatly enhanced by being able to take advantage of the graphics and interactive capabilities that an online resume on a personal web site can provide.

In a nutshell, in these times, a paper resume is not enough. It is essential to be creative and a well-designed electronic, or online version of your resume combined and linked to a strong social media profile, is usually ideal for a successful job search.

~ Regina is a career coach with over a decade of experience which include human resources, career counseling, interviewing skills, resume writing and job searching, with a focus on offline job search, online entrepreneurship, social media and professional networking.
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Get Motivated Daily: Top 5 Ways to Get Motivated Daily

 By Noah S Johnson 

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All right folks. This concept is simple, easy to grab hold of, and a must for any would be online entrepreneur trying to make money online.
Make it part of your daily routine to GET MOTIVATED DAILY. Sorry, I had to yell. It's that important.

A lot of us get into Internet Marketing, because we think we've found the perfect niche to match our interest. We watched a few videos and read a few articles that got us pumped up, just to fizzle out no more than a week later. It happens when that initial adrenaline wears off. It's natural. It happens to all of us. You shouldn't get discouraged. It's all part of the process and it's what is going to set you apart from the rest of the pack. It's whats going to put you in a league with the big boys sooner than you know it.

So along these lines... I guess I've presented the problem, now let me solve it for you. Follows is my top 5 ways to stay motivated:
Top 5 ways to get motivated:
#5 Music

Everyone has those songs that pump them up. You probably have them on your iPod for any time you work out or go for a run. The songs are usually up beat, tell an awesome story, and get your blood flowing no matter what horribly mundane task you're working on. Everyone is different when it comes to music in this category. For me, I am easy to please. I stick to music that has a lot of bass. Typically upbeat lyrics, drum beats, electronic kinda techno-ish. My favorite Pandora station for staying motivated is 'David Guetta'. I rarely have to skip a song, as most help me drone into tasks while keeping a good beat in my head phones.
Spotify might be a good way to see what your friends use to stay motivated. Spotify allows you to share playlists. I look around at my friend's playlist all the time and gather songs that I probably should of heard a long time ago.

#4 Work out
Most people have issues getting motivated to work out. I don't expect you to be any different. But, I do want you to come at it from a different angle. Use working out as a way to get motivated to be productive.

We all know the feeling working out can give us. For me, its a sense of accomplishment, a sense of damn I just did that. It changes my attitude and outlook for the rest of the day. My work out is really simple.

I run for about a mile and a half, stop at my turn around point, do push ups, jumping jacks, flutter kicks, sit ups, lunges, all in rotation until I'm too tired to do any more. Then I run back. While running back I try and go faster than the pace I used to get there.
I make running my main work out for a few reasons. First, it helps me clear my mind, focus on what I'm doing... trying not to stop running. When my mind is cleared like that, It opens my mind to new thinking or refreshed thinking on the topic that matters most to me at that moment. If I get writers or designer block... I go running.

The rush of testosterone and adrenaline to the body is also a great benefit. Helps me feel like a million bucks and makes me very motivated for whatever task I have set in front of me afterwards.

#3 Have a rich mindset
The rich don't run around feeling sorry for themselves. They got rich by doing a lot of things right. And I'm willing to bet the one thing they didn't do was waste time and pass up on opportunities to get serious work done. You cannot fear success. Take your determination and drive and push yourself towards your goal. See small victories and capitalize on them. Own those moments and use them to push you forward.

#2 Stop Procrastination
GET UP AND MAKE IT HAPPEN. Procrastination helps no one, especially yourself. Delay breaks, delay your bull crap excuse to not do the work you have set out in front of yourself. Being an online entrepreneur, an online business manager, whatever you want to call it, comes with a ZERO tolerance for procrastination. Procrastination sucks, and everyone who does, is in the same boat. Don't be a nobody. Be a somebody, and that starts by telling Procrastination to go home. This is a place for work.

#1 Keep yourself goal oriented
Whats your goal?
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Great! How do you get there? You make smaller goals to reach your big goal. If you haven't done this already... START!
Go grab a pen and a piece of paper right now. Write this stuff down.
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I'm Waiting...
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Great! Now, everyday make it your personal goal to check stuff off this list. AND DO IT.
Reaching and obtaining small goals is one of the most gratifying things you can do as your own boss. I personally bought myself a whiteboard that I put right next to my monitors. Any time I lose focus, I look at the list of things I need to do to reach my overall goal. And I do one of them. This is an ever evolving list. It grows everyday. I keep the old small goals I've already reach up on the board with a check mark, just so I can how awesome I am. I did that stuff, and I have a lot more to do. But, when I break it down into small goals, It seems crazy awesome that by doing this small thing, I'm going to eventually check that big box in the corner. My ultimate goal.

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