Search Blog Content

Friday, May 25, 2012

Failure Is Not an Option In Fact It's Not Even Real

The mindset that is so prevalent in American culture today is one of victimhood and the dogged determination to avoid failure at all costs. Let's address something right now. Failure is not some devastating event or occurrence that determines you self-worth and value. Our society has become so fixated with avoiding failure that the American spirit of excellence is being drowned in a sea of mediocrity. What is failure? The etymology of the word failure according to the Greek language means: to cause to fall, make to totter, or trip. Do you notice that the idea of finality is not implied in its proper definition? Failure is nothing more than the results you receive based on particular actions taken a particular time.
The prevailing concept of failure embraced by most people is one that implies that failing makes you a loser. It implies that failure is a reflection of your intrinsic value as a person. This is absurd. It is time to abandon that illusion and false concept and reacquaint ourselves to the spirit and mindset that made up the fabric of our courageous forefathers. There are a couple of simple strategies you can implement right now to shift your mindset and ultimately your life. For one you must identify and become absolutely clear about what your strengths are and secondly, partner, barter or find a way to implement systems to overcome your weak areas.
Let's deal with the first strategy. The primary cause for most of the failures that people experience is due to a complete lack of clarity. When you are unaware of what your unique strengths are it is impossible for you to direct your efforts appropriately to achieve outstanding results. Therefore, you must identify what your strengths are and then set goals and come up with strategies in order to make sure that the majority of your activities are directed towards utilizing your strengths and unique skill set to achieve what you want in any area of your life. Now let's address what most of you are thinking right now. Many of you are wondering about your weak points. Contrary to the advice of so many personal development gurus concentrating on strengthening your weaknesses is a complete waste of time. I am not saying that you should not address it but to focus primarily on that is absurd. That approach is based on the fallacy of the so-called well-rounded person (we will deal with that subject at another time).
It is best that you focus on partnering with someone who plays at the things you have to work hard at. For example, if you love exercise and physical fitness and excel in that area but suck at understanding nutrition and diet partner with someone who loves that to assist you in planning your meals. If accounting is your strength but you hate selling partner with or barter with someone who loves to sell. Are you guys getting the point? If you implement those two simple strategies consistently the results you are currently getting will change for the better. Don't allow the erroneous concept of failure to rob you of an opportunity to live an abundant, fulfilled life in any area. Until next time my friends.
Karlyn Harrison is an experienced internet marketer and Founder and President of Ohio State HomeBuyers LLC. He holds a Bachelor's of Science Degree in Business Administration from Franklin University and is committed to community outreach programs. As a token of appreciation for reading this article he is giving away a FREE eBook entitled "Fail Forward: Overcome the Delusion of Failure and Claim the Abundant Life You Deserve". You can grab your copy by visiting:

Article Source:

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Overcoming Worry About The Future


Do you ever find yourself worrying about what might happen? Do you imagine the worst and replay it over and over in your mind? You're human, so, it's natural to do that sometimes. However, the worry habit can get in the way of enjoying life and accomplishing what is most important to you. In this article, we'll explore some good questions to ask yourself to move through worry, so you can be at your best and enjoy what you are doing.
Let's begin by asking, what's behind your worry? Where are you coming from when you're doing that?
For our purposes, we can describe worry as a mental behavior that is a reaction to anxiety and fear. Fear is a reaction to your perception that something is threatening, dangerous, or painful. Anxiety is an uneasiness about what might happen.
So, worry is a response to anxiety and fear. It's a mental action that makes you feel like you are more prepared for what might happen. Yet worry isn't all that good a preparation for anything-is it? It tends to put you in a mental-emotional place of stress. Because of that, it keeps you from being relaxed, happy, present, and effective at what you are doing.
So, what's a better strategy for dealing with anxiety and fear?
To understand what could work better, let's look at the positive function of anxiety and fear. These feelings arise to alert us that we may need to take action. They tell us that we might need to do something in anticipation of some challenge that is facing us. This "alert to action" function can be important.
For example, anxiety and fear about an upcoming test can motivate you to study. Anxiety and fear when walking through a dark alley can keep you alert to protect yourself. Anxiety and fear about an upcoming work deadline can get you going on the work, spur you to gather resources and partners, and prepare you to do a great job. So, when fear and anxiety alert you to action you need to take right now, they can be very helpful.
However, when, instead of getting busy, you worry, that stalls the positive action process. Worry puts you ahead of yourself, out in the future, in a negative way. It tends to limit the positive actions you take now. It makes you do things like repeated checking to make sure things are O.K., which cycles into more stress and less efficiency. You tend to imagine all sorts of "bad things" that haven't actually happened yet and get locked into obsessing about them instead of doing what you need to do to really take care of a situation.
So, what's a more productive strategy to use when you start to feel anxious or afraid?
First, pause what you are doing and take a few slow deep breaths. Feel the sensation of breathing inside your body. Each time you exhale, give a deep sigh and let go. See if you can relax a bit deeper with each out-breath. Once, you've taken the edge off your anxiousness, you're ready for two important questions:
1. "Is there anything I need to be doing right now to prepare me for what I am afraid/anxious/worried about? Is there anything I can and need to do about that?"
If the answer is "yes" you can then ask yourself,
2a. "What is the best, most precise, and effective action I can take?"
Then, get busy doing that from a relaxed, proactive state of being.
2b. If the answer is "no," you can enjoy your return to the present moment and get on with what is actually important for you to do right now. You can ask yourself "What is truly important for me to do right now? What is my top priority?"
If this sounds too simple, I encourage you to give it a try. This little process is something that you can get better and better at with practice. One hint: The better you get at consciously relaxing yourself, the more accurate the answers you'll receive to your questions. If you'd like to learn more about conscious relaxation, check out the link in the Resource Box below.
Enjoy your practice!
Are you ready to de-stress, quiet your mind, and relax deeply? Discover how to take your stress management to the next level. For tips and techniques to reduce stress be sure to visit us here.
Kevin Schoeninger graduated from Villanova University in 1986 with a Master's Degree in Philosophy. He is certified as a Life Coach, Reiki Master Teacher, Qigong Meditation Instructor, and Personal Fitness Trainer.
Article Source:

Article Source: