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Friday, December 14, 2012

How to Manage Rejection


OUCH! You just got rejected again! How do you manage to get past this, when the pain is so severe? Read below to find out what you can do to manage the overwhelming feelings of rejection.
The first thing that you will almost always have to do to get through the feelings of rejection, is to experience acceptance. You can't get past ANYTHING if you can't accept that it has happened to you first. Hence, be sure not to let your mind place you in a position to avoid acceptance by doing things like denying the rejection or living in a fantasy world. Honesty is always the best policy, so be honest and tell yourself the truth! You just got totally rejected!
Next, be sure not to personalize the rejection. I mean, it is clear that you were the one who was rejected but believe me, "It happens to EVERYBODY!" While it usually never feels good to be rejected, this doesn't excuse the fact that if everyone will experience it at some point in their lives... Why not you? Why not now?
Also, many times when one experiences rejection, it's not even about the person being rejected. Maybe the rejection is about a lay-off, or a break up... Often times it is about the other party who has made a change and for whatever reason, no longer needs the involvement of the person being rejected. This doesn't mean that the rejected person is bad, it just means that the circumstances have changed and that includes the circumstances for the rejected person.
Whatever you are being rejected from, don't forget to learn from it. Learning from rejection is a sure way to decrease the frequency and intensity of the feelings of rejection. For instance, if your last relationship partner informed you that you talk too much, you may want to think of ways that you can improve the amount of time you spend talking. If a job laid you off because you showed a lack of commitment to it, you should learn how to be sure that your future employers feel as if you value your job with them.
And last but certainly not least, don't be afraid to try again. The quote "Quitters never Win and Winners never Quit" has never been so important than at a time like this. You can never get whatever it is that you want in life, if you give-up so you have to be willing to put your big kid pants on, dust yourself off, and "try again!"
Before we close, let's review these tips one last time:
· Accept Rejection
· Do Not Personalize Rejection
· Understand that Rejection is Not about You
· Learn from Rejection
Rejection is such a bummer. Trust me, I've experienced it a time or two myself. If you would like to know more about what you can do to manage your feelings of rejection, please contact me at Let's connect soon!
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