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Sunday, December 26, 2010

Avoid Being Self Conscious

 By Colin Burton


Self-consciousness implies being unduly aware of oneself to the extent that you become awkward and uneasy in the presence of others. You feel that everyone is staring at you and observing your appearance, clothes, and mannerisms. You feel their comments are directed towards you and they are criticizing your movements and everything else regarding you. In some cases, people refer to this as egotistical from a negative point of view.
Your ego makes you believe that all conversations and observations are focused on you which may be the furthest thing in the minds of the people. Most people are concerned about themselves that they lose focus on other people and those that do notice you are simply being attentive and focused on your concerns.
Being self-conscious can lead to awkward and embarrassing situations if you are not careful. You might blurt some statements due to your discomfort only to realize too late that there was no cause for being ill at ease. You might take offense on some innocent remark thinking that it was directed towards you.
Overcoming your self-consciousness is a major step in gaining self-confidence and self-esteem in yourself. Look internally at your strengths and weaknesses. Recognize and exhibit the strengths you have while correcting and remediating your weaknesses. Do not feel embarrassed or shy about your weaknesses. Everybody has a weakness and you are no exception. Be aware of your weakness and exert efforts to correct the weakness. You might have certain defects that are not curable.
This does not make you any less of a person. In fact, learn to live with the defects and make sure it does not hinder you in achieving your goals and objectives. Some people attribute their failures to lack of skills and talents due to hereditary or physical deficiencies. This is a negative and defeatist outlook, giving up before even trying. The successful people will look at their deficiencies as opportunities to excel in other ways and a challenge to overcome their weaknesses.
Do not believe you are inferior to other people. Some people may be endowed with exceptional talents and skills but this does not mean you are a lesser person than them. Be proud of your accomplishments. Take charge and face your fears. Identify whatever makes you fear social interaction and be firm and resolute in overcoming the fears. You may come to realize that the fears might be internal in your thoughts and are of your own perception.
Other people may look at you with admiration and respect but you might not see it clearly because of your obsession on being self-conscious. Do not allow self-consciousness to muddle your mind. Be focused and aware of your surroundings and the people interacting with you. Show you are in control of your actions. Do not be overwhelmed or intimidated by other people. Some people enjoy being boisterous and rowdy. Accept their mannerisms but do not become affected by their actions. Conduct your social interactions objectively and professionally. Exude an aura of self-confidence and self-esteem. Anticipate situations and prepare in advance.
People will recognize your value and respect you once you start exhibiting more self-confidence in your stature and disposition. Be positive and attentive to the concerns of others.
Colin Burton strives to help others improve their lives through the supply of good informative self-improvement information. FREE download copy of Think And Grow Rich at

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