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Sunday, December 12, 2010

How to Love Life Again - Lesson 1: Start by Loving Yourself

 By Savannah Ejilika


It is our human nature to be loved and to love. We can't help it. Every fibre in our being is in-tuned to search for and embrace love in its purest form. To look at this on a wider level, you could say that love is the fundamental and imperative glue which bonds all things; seen and unseen.
It All Starts Within
Have you ever wondered why we hear stories about multi millionaires and celebrities that commit suicide or 'fall of the rail' despite their immense wealth? Or even some people you may know who seem to have everything yet they still complain that they are not fulfilled?
What some of us often fail to realise is that the reality we experience are often outward projections of our inner thoughts and feelings. When we don't love ourselves, we fail to accept and appreciate ourselves as we truly are; thereby allowing other people and circumstances to influence how we feel about ourselves.
What I often find myself saying to people is that others will always have an opinion of you whether you like it or not. They could cast judgement, throw aspersions and insult you. Let them. Often times, their negative reaction to you is the outward projection of their own internal turmoil. Other people's opinion of you is not the main issue. The fundamental and most important thing is what you think of yourself!
If you seek to live a truly happy and fulfilled life you must first and foremost start by feeling happy and fulfilled within yourself. Loving and accepting every part of your being (the good, the bad and the ugly) will change your perception of life. You will come to realise that you are on a continuous journey like everybody else. Your mind and body is like a vehicle, which needs fuel on a continuous basis. That fuel is love and acceptance.
When you truly love yourself, the intent of your innermost thoughts and feelings will manifest in your reality through the people and experiences you attract. You will have a deeper understanding and knowledge of 'self' and know what role you play in the grand scheme of things. There is oneness in all things because you are a part of the infinite wholeness we call God. You must learn to discover who you truly are and simply embrace that self.
Be You and No One Else!
To look at yourself through the lens of other people is to build up a false self image, which takes away your individual authenticity and uniqueness. We all have a part to play in this wonderful spectrum of life and each individual is beautiful, unique, magnificent and gifted because we are all part of one whole. We can often be our own worst critic and enemy when it seems we are not living upto a certain expectation or standard. But ask yourself this question: who's expectation or standard are you trying to live upto; yourself or somebody else's? Today, start to look at yourself in a new light. Start to appreciate, embrace and love your uniqueness in all its glory because you are truly magnificent!
Please tune in for Lesson 2: Conquer Your Fears, when I will give you the solutions to breaking thought-based fear patterns which can hinder progress.
Savannah Ejilika is the author and Proprietor of Corner of Inspiration; an online resource which aims to inspire, empower and motivate individuals to succeed in all aspects of their life.
She is also a Project Manager by profession and specialises in the management of cyclical and IT related projects (namely, the implementation of IT systems which facilitate business processes).
Please visit for more inspirational and motivational material.

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