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Monday, January 23, 2012

How to Build Lasting Self-Confidence



Self-confidence is having the belief in our ability to do or accomplish something, or to succeed. It largely involves our past learning experiences, successes, and achievements.
For many of us self-confidence can fluctuate up and down, depending on the daily challenges we face in comparison with our ability to deal with those challenges. However, building a sustainable and balanced self-confidence is achievable. What follows are some ways to do just that.
First and foremost, building a lasting self-confidence requires a degree of focus and the determination to follow through toward real and solid achievements. There is no quick way to acquire self-confidence. It requires work because that's what success requires, and it is success in our endeavors that breeds self-confidence. Thus, the more successes you have the more lasting your self-confidence will be.
Secondly, to build upon the self-confidence that you already have take an inventory and recall your past successes. Bring to mind the feeling you had at the moment of each of those successes. Experience those successes in your mind again and then apply that experience to the current challenge you might be facing.
Many athletes perform this very mental exercise prior to every competition they participate in. Some call it "psyching the self up". But it's that recalled feeling that help these competitors build the lasting self-confidence to be successful in each and every competition.
Goal setting is also important to establishing lasting self-confidence. Often we successfully accomplish a task and reap the rewarding feeling of self-confidence, only to have our self-confidence dissipate over time. This is because we didn't set other goals after completing the previous one.
If you want to have lasting self-confidence then you need to continuously set goals before yourself and accomplish them each and every time, one after the other. Moreover, by setting goals and accomplishing them you put structure into your life. Structure can help in establishing a lasting self-confidence.
Confident self talk is another way to build lasting self-confidence. Let yourself know you are capable of accomplishing your goals. Tell yourself that you will effectively execute the strategies necessary to reach your goal.
If necessary think the strategies through, envisioning yourself in the execution of each and every step. This is called visualization and it will influence your self-confidence.
Our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are all inter-related. Whenever you act confidently it will help increase your self-confidence. This is especially important to do when your self-confidence begins to diminish, which at times happens to even the best.
To act confidently keep your head up, put a bounce in your step, and focus on those things you can control. Even when things don't seem so good, this behavior can activate thoughts of self-confidence.
To maintain a lasting self-confidence it is very important to have and focus on achievable goals. If your goals are realistically beyond your immediate reach you may be setting yourself up for a failure and failure, although it is part of the learning process, may not help you to establish lasting self-confidence.
Instead, set goals for yourself that are challenging, but ones that you know you can reach and successfully accomplish with a bit of hard work and determination.
Self-confidence comes not just from the accomplishment of our goals, but more from the knowledge of the hard work we invested into accomplishing them. Almost every true soldier knows that it's not just the winning of the battle that makes a soldier, but more importantly it's the battle itself that makes a soldier a soldier.
Yes, soldiers do reflect upon the glory of victory, but they reflect more upon the sweat, blood, and tears that made the victory possible. Lasting self-confidence is developed through the same principle.
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: communication skills
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  1. The most important step in building self confidence is simply to take action. Working on something and getting it done. Sitting at home and thinking about it will just make you feel worse. Simple. But not always easy to do.