When pursuing goals, a necessary step is to be aggressive. Not in a bullying, obnoxious manner with other people but one in which the goal seeker must be creative and assertive with him/herself in going after what is being sought. Look for ways to actively pursue your goals. Be persistent and think about ways, maybe out ot the box ways, to get where you want to be. Passivity is not the answer.
When I talk about being aggressive, I am not talking about going out and beating up people on the street or yelling at anyone who looks at you funny. What I am talking about is adopting an aggressive attitude towards goal achievement. Because I can tell you from experience and being exposed to large amounts of material in the goal setting area that people who are passive are not achieving goals, at least not many of them or at a high level.
I read this statement recently: “If I want my life to have new possibilities, I will have to create them.” First of all you have to decide that generally a way does exist to get what you want … if you want it badly enough. And you have to know that you are the one who is going to have to work hard and be creative to get there. You cannot sit back and wait for “it” to happen. You must take action with laser focus, zeroing in on your particular goal.
Then, in most cases, you will soon find that you have begun to execute your plan but the steps to get there are not working exactly as you had envisioned. If one method does not work, then you have to alter it somewhat or try something different altogether. Missiles work this way. They are basically off course much of the time, making small corrections constantly with their inner guidance system until they hit the target. Ultimately, like the missile, you get where you want to be but with some course corrections along the way.
Another way to be aggressive involves being bold in approaching others. For example, presently I am writing a small book on backpacking, entitled Have Backpack – Will Travel: Seeing the World on a Budget with a Backpack. While browsing in a large, chain retail sporting goods/outdoors store. I saw some books and DVDs on golfing and fishing. However, when I visited the area on camping and backpacking, I did not see any similar media. So when I got home, I looked up the national corporate office on-line, called, got the receptionist, and told her I was looking for someone who handled the backpack line. She connected me with the department head for that area. I told him that I had just been in one of his stores and saw nothing in book form about backpacking. He said they had nothing. I told him I was writing a book about the topic. He reply was that he would like me to email him a copy when I finished, that he would make no promises but he might be interested in the book.
Of course I have no idea if anything will work out with this chain of stores, but if it does it would certainly be an outlet for my book (and more money in by pocket!). But if it does not, I gave it a shot. I was aggressive; I did not wait for this company to call me and say they heard I was working on this book and they had to see it. Usually life does not work that way unless you are already famous and established with people waiting excitedly for your next project to be done: only a few people like J.K. Rowlings and Tom Clancy exist.
What does this mean to you? To restate my earlier premise - if you want to achieve goals, you must be aggressive in pursuing them. You must be bold in taking action towards what you want. Approaching people by phone, email or through others, taking a course that will provide more knowledge, joining a group associated with the area you are interested in, researching/reading about your area of interest in depth, taking time to brainstorm about what you need to do, asking for help from others, attending a conference related to your area of interest or engaging in any number of other practical actions that will get you closer to where you want to be have to be implemented. Sitting around
, doing nothing but thinking about your goals is not the answer. Source: Free Articles from ArticlesFactory.com
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Dr. Earl Paul is a Student Affairs professional at Hillsborough Community College in Tampa, Florida. He is also a speaker and an author, focusing on llife skills areas. To learn more about him, his educational materials or programs, visit his website at www.drearlpaul.com
have to agree being a push over with your goals is never the answer. You have to try and be assertive to get what you want.
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