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Saturday, August 14, 2010

How Come You Are Successful and I Am Not?

 By MJ Busch

Have you ever asked yourself that? Why is that person successful and I am not? What is so different about them?
Have you taken the time to observe a successful person? Watch how they carry themselves, watch their body language, and see how people respond to them. Do they look confident and act as if they do not have a care in the world?
People who ooze self-confidence are ones that people look up to, or hang onto their every word, or just want to be like them. So how come some people have all the self-confidence in the world while others doubt themselves and what they are doing? Does it have to do with their upbringing? Were they born wealthy and they just think that they are better than everyone else? Or is it because they are just totally aware of who they are and strongly believe in themselves?
Through all walks of life, people will always have specific areas in their life where they are lacking self-confidence. You could have been raised by the most loving parents who nurtured you with love and praise yet still have a lacking of self-confidence with some aspect of your life, perhaps in relationships. You could have been born into a family that has enormous wealth yet still feel inadequate when it comes to running the family business or you feel socially inadequate.
Can you really start building your self-confidence level so that you totally believe in yourself, no matter what you are trying to accomplish? Yes, you can! There is not a doubt in my mind that people can change anything they want to change about themselves. It is just a matter of learning how you can go about doing this. For starters, did you know that every little self doubt that you have in your head, no matter what the subject matter is, will bring down your self-confidence level. You may not even be aware that you are doing this, but there are always little thoughts going around in our heads that are directing the way we are thinking at that moment. For example, let's say you are driving down the street and you see someone who is gorgeous, and you think, "wow, they're gorgeous, it must be nice to look like that". So what is that telling you? That you are not happy with the way you look, which, in turn, can affect the way you carry yourself and the signals you put out. Or how about if you are at work and a co-worker is getting praise from the boss and you start feeling inadequate, that they are better at their job than you. But are they really? No, you just have to start believing that you are just as good at your job as they are.
You have to start turning the thoughts around in your head to make positive thoughts in everything you do. And I mean everything, no matter what the situation. When you start making negatives thoughts into positive thoughts, no matter how little they may seem, eventually that is going to be your normal way of thinking. How much better do you think you are going to feel about yourself and your life when your every thought is a positive thought? How do you think people will start reacting to you with all of this positiveness around you?
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1 comment:

  1. great article thank you