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Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Is Your Personality Causing You Stress?

 By: Tony Robinsno

It may sound hard to believe, but experts say that your
personality can actually cause you stress. To a certain extent,
your personality might have been determined at birth. However,
there are certain characteristics that you might have developed
over the years that are now contributing to your stress level.
While one cannot change his or her personality overnight, it is
certainly possible to change certain habits that may now be
causing you stress.

To begin with, you should ask yourself if you have low
self-esteem. Do you feel as if you are inferior to other people?
Do you constantly berate yourself for your faults? Do you
consider yourself to be the sum total of your mistakes? There is
evidence to suggest that low self-esteem can lead to stressful
situations. The problem is that you may be putting stress on
yourself unnecessarily.

Therefore, what you need to do is to begin to enhance your
self-esteem. This begins by ending the "negative talk" that goes
on inside your head. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses,
form a list of your strengths. You might also want to list all
of your major accomplishments. You might be amazed to discover
just how much you have achieved. Whenever you feel the urge to
downgrade yourself, think of your attributes. This should serve
to end the litany of your failures which you may be repeating to

Stress can also be the result of being overburdened. Do you
take on too much? Are you dealing with too much responsibility?
While there are certain responsibilities at home, at work, and
at school that we must carry, at times we may be overextending
ourselves. List your major responsibilities and see if there i
a way for you to whittle down the list. You might be surprised
to learn just how much you have taken on. With a little bit of
planning, you might be able to shift some of your
responsibilities to other members of your household or to your
co-workers. Be sure to talk with your mate and your boss if your
stress level seems out of control. Together, you can work on
strategies to reduce the amount of stress you feel.

Let's face it. Some of us are control freaks. We feel as if we
need to control every detail within our line of sight. If you
fall into this category, you may be experiencing stress because
of your controlling nature. You may also find that this weakness
is negatively impacting your personal life, causing you to feel
additional stress in your relationships. In order to combat this
tendency, try practicing the old adage, "Let Go and let God (or
your Higher Power). Recognize that there are certain things tha
are simply beyond your control. The sooner you recognize this,
the better off you'll be, and the less stress you will feel.

Another prime cause of stress is fear, especially fear of th
unknown. You may be fearful of making mistakes or of being
judged harshly. In order to counteract this, you must recognize
that everyone commits errors--even major league basebal
players! You must also learn to forgive yourself for your
faults--otherwise, you will be putting yourself under a
tremendous amount of stress. Follow the motto: Do your best and
let nature take care of the rest. Try not to agonize over every
little thing. In addition, learn to get over the guilt of not
being perfect. Otherwise, your stress level is likely to
consistently hit the roof.

You have to realize that recognizing your faults is half the
battle. Once you know what personal foibles you need to work on,
you'll be in a better position to reduce your stress. Realize
that it took you a long time to develop such personality flaws,
so it might take some time to eliminate them. In other words,
don't expect to radically change your personality in a week.
However, with the proper amount of diligence, you can alter
those aspects of your personality that are causing you grief.
Once you eliminate these flaws, you should feel more energetic,
less stressed, and better able to take on the world. And you may
just find your blood pressure decreasing as well.

1 comment:

  1. salam turios k...

    nice info to share..keep in scratch