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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Basic Procedure For Analyzing Worry

 By Francis Nmeribe


Some of the synonyms of worry are being anxious, fretting, being concerned, being troubled, agonizing, losing sleep, being bothered, etc. One of the challenges faced by man is to differentiate worrying from thinking. Some of the times when people are worried, they tell you that they have been thinking. It is considered appropriate here to state that when you spend a sleepless night over an issue, it does not mean that you have been thinking about that issue. In fact, there is no relationship between thinking and worrying as can be seen in their synonyms. The synonyms of thinking include philosophy, idea, accepted wisdom, opinion, view, belief and judgment.
Having separated these two mistaken words, it would be wise when next you become anxious, concerned or troubled, you would recognize that you are worrying. Worrying is a dangerous mental state capable of destroying your peace, happiness, health and hope. Follow the following procedure when next you are worried. It would help you overcome your worries and get you involved in constructive efforts that would heal you.
1. Get all the facts: Questions naturally lead to answers. So ask yourself what are the facts of the situation you are dealing with at this moment. What is the issue at stake? Find a name for it. What is right about it? What is wrong about it? There several other questions that could be asked. The purpose is to gain knowledge of what, why, who, when, where and how. The principle is that if you know the 5 Ws and the 1 H, then you can deal with it.
2. Weigh all the facts - then come to a decision: The first step would naturally lead you to this second step. Now you should consider the following questions and others that would come to your mind. What is the worst thing that can result if there is no solution? What result can come with a resolution? You would use the 5 W and 1 H in this analysis. As you consider the facts, you would be led to one or more probable or sure courses of action and a decision.
3. Once a decision is reached, act! There is a law that states that if you do not take action, nothing happens. Solutions lie in action. You have a chance to solve the problem that led to your worries by acting upon the decision you reached after weighing the facts, developing options and making a decision.
4. Write out and answer the following questions: It is important that you write down the answers to the questions of the 5W and 1H. While working through the Ws and H, you would find answers to the following questions. Write them down also. Your answers to these and other questions when written down would give you the power to not only solve the problem, but to see that you probably have no real cause alarm.
a. What is the problem?
b. What are the causes of the problem?
c. What are the possible solutions?
d. What is the best possible solution?
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