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Monday, November 29, 2010

Why Setting Goals Don’t Work!

 By: Raymond Hill


Most people would agree that individual beliefs and values influence and determine the outcome of any situation or experience in our lives. That’s why a group of people can go through similar experiences and yet individually come away with totally different results. Question!!! "When do most people think about setting goals?" It’s usually done as a new year’s resolution at a party over a drink or two, or when you need to slim down for the summer to fit into that new bikini you’re planning to buy or on some other whim. When done in such a manner the goals set tend to be unrealistic and unattainable? No real thought or planning has gone into it, and in reality, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment and failure.

When this happens of course you say to yourself. "See I knew that goals don’t work!!" The truth of the matter is that there is a specific formula needed to create great goals that work. Only 20% of the reasons why you’re not achieving your goals are on the outside. That means 80% of the reasons why you’re not reaching your goals is on the inside. If you are seriously looking for change in whatever area in life you are unhappy about always start with yourself.

Einstein said "We are all boxed in by the boundary conditions of our own thinking" Our values and beliefs are created subconsciously through the conditionings we received in our early informative years through our parents, education, religion, schooling and work ect. When we reach our teens and into adulthood, we conveniently begin to pigeon hole meanings and reasons to life’s experiences. Subconsciously we create own internal rule book on how we believe we should be and on how we perceive things. Through habitual limiting beliefs and thought processes we set an invisible wall that limits what we allow ourselves to experience and feel. This then becomes our perceived reality of the world. To change your internal representation of your individual world, we must begin to challenge and review:

• You’re Beliefs: Beliefs from the parameters of what you will and will not allow in your life. They make up the boundary conditions of your thinking. Limiting beliefs narrow and restrict your possible experiences; however, transformed beliefs can expand your individual potential and expand what you allow yourself to experience.

• You’re Values: Values represent what is important to you, ideas that guide your life and represent what you stand for, like family, happiness, stability, love, money, recognition ect. Individual experiences will vary based on your range of values. Someone who values wealth will invest time and effort in that area, and there life will reflect that. If that same person does not value honesty, then the route to wealth will be very different from someone who values honesty.

There have been three major turning points in my life:

The first was when I discovered that if I wanted anything to change it was up to me. This world doesn’t owe me any favors or free hand outs. I am responsible for my life, and for everything that’s happened to me. At some level, we have chosen everything that happens in our experience, whether consciously or unconsciously, for a grander purpose. Don't ask, "Why did I create this?' Instead, ask yourself, "How did I create this reality and what do I want to create instead?"Responsibility means "If it’s to be it’s up to me" After you accept complete responsibility, your whole life begins to change.

• The second turning point for me came when I realized that you can learn how to be successful. If you put your mind to it, there is nothing that you can’t accomplish. No one is any better or smarter than you. All Life and business skills, sales skills and money making skills are learnable.

• The third turning point was discovering the art of correctly setting goals. When done correctly your goals become the signposts along your path, which motivates and keeps you on track towards your desired results? The Goal Setting Formula To Success The first thing is to decide exactly what key area of your life you would like to work on. Start off with your end result in mind. Imagine that there are no limitations on what you can be, have or do. Imagine that you have all the time and money, all the friends and contacts, all the education and experience that you need to accomplish any goal you can set for yourself.

Just like a Harry Potter, Imagine that you could wave your magic wand and make your life perfect in areas of life of your choice. What would it look like? For a goal to truly motivate people it must inspire create the energy and confidence and determination so that the goal may be reached. For this to happen effortlessly and easily write your goal in present-tense language as if it is happening right now. Success is not around the corner - it's right now. Using the following technique allows you to put goals in your future in such a way that they actually occur. When Creating Your Goals They Must Be:

Specific: For your goal to have the energy to reach its objective it must be detailed and state its outcome. It’s no good saying "I want to be rich" This is very ambiguous. How much richer would you want to be? If you make 1 cent more you would be richer. Be specific. Example: "I want to earn $10,000 passive income per month from my online internet affiliate programs".

Measurable: When we set goals it’s important to start with the end in mind. This prevents procrastination and gives a positive direction to shoot for. When setting goals be aware that you will be breaking this goal down turning it into milestones. Start with the end in mind.

Evidential: There should be some practical evidence that you decide upon when setting your goal that makes it real and compelling for you. Be sure that you have a clearly defined the way you want your goal to be. For example, it is obvious when you have reached your goal when you have in your next month’s bank account $10,000 from your online internet affiliate programs. This is a better goal than just I want to be rich. Focusing on the evidence will help you to be on target and will improve the effectiveness of achieving your goal.

Responsible: When we set goals it must be understood that for this goal to work you must take control of your actions and be responsible for the success of this goals objective. You must fully accept the consequences of your own decisions and actions. Responsibility means "If it’s to be it’s up to me.

Timed: In your subconscious mind the past and the future don't exist; there is only the "now". Your future is pre destined, to a degree on what you are doing, thinking and believing right now. This means that the future can be molded and shaped any way you want it to be. By creating future date goals you are taking charge of your future. At first aim to make the goal roughly 6 months away.

Inspirational: We as human beings do things either to avoid pain, to gain pleasure or because we are inspired to do something. When we live our lives in accordance with our own inner values and follow our true heart’s desire we discover our higher self. We instinctively awaken a dormant energy that guides our life and so we begin our sacred quest to find our true purpose. When we are inspired we manifest great things into our life to support nurture and challenge us. Challenges help us to grow and are necessary for great things to happen.

Emotional: Human beings are emotional beings everything we do is driven by our emotions. We are driven to gain pleasure and to avoid pain. It's an instinctive ancestral survival skill from years of ago, when we needed to have those instincts to avoiding becoming dinner for that wiled bear! So the more emotional gain that is associated with your goal the more you will feel compelled to go for it.

Goal: Health (example) It is the 17th of July 2009, and I feel amazing as I am now a healthy size 10. I love and feed my body a healthy balanced diet of daily salads and juices. I walk regularly around Regents Park three times a week and attend yoga four times per week. I feel my life is in balance, and I now have more energy and vitality to develop and build my personal training practice.

Activating the Goal: Once you have designed your goal it is important that you put it into action. Take a few moments to create the emotions that would accompany the successful achieve¬ment of your goal. In your mind eye create a mental picture combined with all the emotions that will have an enormous impact on your subcon¬scious mind. Visualization is perhaps the most powerful tool available to you to help you achieve your goals faster than you ever thought possible. When you combine this clear goal setting method, with emotionally charged visualization, you activate your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind then solves every problem on the way to your goal. Your subconscious mind activates the Law of Attraction and begins attracting into your life people, circumstances, ideas and resources that will help you to achieve your goals even faster.

Read your goal and do this visualization every morning and evening before you go to bed? Remember To: 1. Commit to go through this program with 100%, total commitment. You will get out of it what you put into it. 2. Make the decision to change your life for the better. Then, use the above method to create your desired Goal. 3. Take action! In order to make a change in your life, you have to actually do something. Take responsibility for your own life and your own results. 4. Begin with the end in mind.

This method of goal setting is one of many Shamanic Life Coaching techniques used by the Padmic System™ helping you to experience a greater understanding of yourself and your individual strengths.

Raymond Hill from the is an experienced Shamanic life Coach/Therapist; practicing in London since 2001. Being brought up in a shamanic environment and with over the past 35 year experience Raymond has combine ancient shamanic teachings with NLP to produce the the Padmic System™ This is a solution focused approach to personal development that can assist clients to make lasting changes in all areas of their life.
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