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Thursday, November 4, 2010

Anger and Hostility Due to Depression?

 by shelpmagazine


Question: I am being treated with medication for depression but still at times feel overwhelmed by feelings of worthlessness as well as feelings of anger and hostility toward my husband. Is this all due to depression or is something else going on?

I key in on your statement about feeling worthless. That is a feeling worth examining. Where did it come from? It has a ring of self-hatred to it which means that perhaps one issue you could examine would center around whether or not you love yourself.

Love of self often gets confused with being self-centered. Nothing could be further from the truth! If one loves oneself, there is no blindness to faults and character defects. Nor is there harsh judgment. There is simply hope that growth can continue and that the faults can be corrected. Sometimes, too, when we do not love ourselves, it is because we have not forgiven ourselves for some of our mistakes. This can give rise to feelings of worthlessness and depression.

As far as your reaction to your husband, there may in fact be some legitimate reasons why you are angry with him. It is also possible that any anger you hold toward yourself gets directed at him.

You may want to find a counselor who can help you explore this spiritual side of depression. Medication is a great help for the physical facets of depression. You may want to complement that with some spiritually oriented counselling which can help you examine such issues as love of self and forgiveness.

Dr. Marlene M. Maheu, a Licensed Psychologist, is the Founder and Editor-in-Chief of one of the largest self-help & psychology portals, SelfhelpMagazine. More articles from this author are available at


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