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Sunday, September 5, 2010

Ways to Motivate Teens With Low Self-Confidence

 By Irene Roth


Do you feel unable to cope with your peers because of low self-confidence? Do you feel out of place a lot? Do you feel like others are much better than you? Do you feel like an outcast?
If you answered any or all of these questions in the affirmative, believe me, you're not alone. However, it is important for you to realize that you can change. You can be much more confident with others and yourself. Even if you have to fake it at the present time in order to dissuade another kid from pouncing on you like an angry cat.
Here are a few tips to motivate yourself to have more self-confidence.
1. Know in your heart that you are a valuable person, just as you are. Don't worry if you have warts and things that you don't feel especially proud of. Each of you has these idiosyncrasies. But you are made in the image of God. And because of this, you should always be proud of yourself.
2. Never allow another kid or sibling to put you down for something that you said, regardless of the circumstances. Always assert yourself with respect. Don't assent to abuse, be in verbal or otherwise. You don't deserve to be put down by anyone.
3. Make sure that you walk tall and hold your head up high. If you're not in the habit of walking tall, practise this bodily stance in your bedroom when you're alone. Or, when you find yourself alone at home, practise walking this way across the living room. Turn inward to feel how good you feel when you walk in this manner.
4. Sometimes, you may have to fake being self-confident. None of you are completely self-confident, and there are situations that make you feel very unsure of yourself. Most of you have to work at being self-confident, and that is something that can only be developed from within. So, sometimes give others the air of self-confidence. It will help you feel better in the long run.
So turn inward often. Complement yourself often. Tell yourself how great you are. Smile at yourself when you look in the mirror and realize that because you have been made in the image of God, you don't have to put up with abuse. Instead, you deserve all the praise and great things that life has to offer.

Irene S. Roth is a freelance writer for teens and tweens. She is in the process of writing a few E-books for teens and tweens on the topic of confidence and self-assertion. She also has an adolescent blog at

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